Ab Imo Pectore !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Being Happy !!!!!!!!

2011-02-04T06:56:00.000Z

"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections."

I know lots of people including me who when asked if they think that they are happy with the things happening in their life.. be it with career wise or in their relationships.. the standard response will be not exactly but i wish or think it will be better..

All of us are trying to chase behind the dream where all our lifes are perfect.. where we don't seem to have any problems in our life.

Just wishing that getting a promotion at work or getting the latest model car or getting a bigger house will automatically make us happy. We just don't realise that once that dream or ambition is fulfilled we automatically replace it with something else. Something much more bigger and much more important or atleast we feel is important to us at that particular point in our lives.

Which thus makes us forget what are the things that genuinely makes us feel happy.. really happy about one self.

May be it could be as simple as having a very lazy day.. starting from a lie in on the bed... or to just playing on your X-box. It could be catching up with your spouse and doing things together or meeting up with friends and trying to catch up with them and having a good time.

Now when we have finished up with all the mad rush of the new years and where the resolutions are pretty much gone with the wind ( i apologise to those who are still able to keep up with their resolutions ) more less because we couldn't find the time to do things for ourselves in our busy lives.

I have made a small compilations of quotes that i found on the web.. and thought will share them here..

"Happiness is not having what you want. It is wanting what you have."

"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful."

"There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will."

"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it."

Now what ever said and done.. reading this post and going through the quotes.. end of it all.. its all down to our mind state.. and that's something that we choose to do.. i am choosing to be happy let what ever it may be.. what about???

Life and memories.....

2011-01-19T11:30:00.000Z

The other day i got a quote as a forward text from one of my friends.. It read as

People meet by coincidence.. They spend sweet time together, then God separates them, not to end the story.. But to see how much they remember each other.. !

I realised its so true.. All the things that you do together.. be it in friendship.. in love.. or committed relationship.. suddenly starts to fade away.. and before you know it.. you think that you have gone away from that person.. just that we never realise that we didnt make the effort to keep things going.. never took the time to remember how things were..

Starting from the most simplest things like one's fav drink.. is it tea or coffee.. to anyother preferneces.. its just all taken granted for.. and never remembered.. remembering to wish someone on their birthday.. anniversary.. its all part of the relationship..

To all my friends out there.. this is my way of saying sorry incase i forgot to be there for you.. and over the years if we havent kept in touch.. Hope all's well..Happy reading

Technology in our lifes..

2011-01-12T07:41:00.004Z

Off late i have been travelling quite a bit.. be it for my family or because i wanted to move from one city to another.. but anyways.. whats keeping me in touch with my family and friends while travelling is my mob.. i.e technology..

Long gone are the days were i would tell ppl that i am about to board the train and that i leaving for the station and hence will call once i reach the destination. but now days we can be in touch constantly.. we can call each other up... get all the glory details off one's travel then and there starting from if you are having an annoying co-passenger.. to which station you have reached at that particular time of the day.. to what you might eat later on..

But I have this very love -hate relationship with this technology.. i love the fact that i can reheat my food in few mins.. i get to record my fav tele soaps in case i miss them or wanna watch them a million times.. i love the fact that i am in touch with my loved ones all the time.. but it also gets me distracted very easily.. especially when i don't want to be distracted..say like now.. i started to write this blog.. and got carried away googling things up on technology and relationships.. hehe funny stuff.. i am pretty sure it has happened to lots of us.. we decided that yes this is what i am going to do .. this is my plan for the day.. but once we log on to the virtual world then all hell break loose.. have to check emails.. reply back to the emails .. off lines.. check on your friends status.. poke each other on face book.. and what not.. and if there's some gossip out.. oh boy we do have to catch up on that.. and yes.. how can i forget.. tweet about them as well..

But what this technology has done is its has taken out the charm one could have a conversation for hours together face to face.. because now we somehow manage to stay in touch all the time.. thus making us feel connected with the other person all the time.. be it how far they are.. everyone is connected to the other..Also now if u want to avoid some one then u don't exactly have to pick up calls or reply back to the texts and you can always blame this back on to the technology. There are one of genuine cases were technology is to be blamed for this...

But I would still prefer the old fashioned way of keeping in touch.. meeting up for coffee...having long conversations about anything under the sun.. just having able to put a face to the voice or to your chats helps to such an extent that's nothing.. able to see the facial expressions helps more in having the conversation.. because you know for sure if the person is genuinely interested or just pretending to be listening.. because that's what happens sometimes.. we are on the chat or on a call.. and might simultaneously be multi tasking.. and thus we don't even realise if the topic of discussion or conversation was of importance or not.... i know some of u would suggest the video chat but common how many times have u thought i wish the we could just sit and talk instead of having to stare at the computer monitor..

Well anyways.. i just got distracted for the n'th time while writing this blog... So i think i will just wrap it up.. Hope you guys will let me know what u think.. and mean time.. i have given the link to one of my distractions that i had while googling things up...
Enjoyyyy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.vinniev.com/8-comical-ways-how-technology-changed-our-relationships

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

2010-11-16T06:20:00.002Z

There's a saying..

" Fate chooses your relations, but you choose your friends " - Jacques Delille

And this is so true.. you do not have a control on who your relations are.. even if you don't like them you still have to bear with them as they are part of your family . But Friends well they are different. They are the one of the most important choices that we make.They make it worth living for. Giving you new direction , hope and also sometimes the needed badgering to get on with things in your life. They in lots of ways contribute in our life's knowingly or unknowingly.Is there a more comfortable company than the company of friends?

In my experience there is more to friendship. Its an exception to the rule where both comfort and growth don't usually go together. But in the safety of one's friends we always seem to do test our limits. It is often a platform of challenge and helps us in facing the truth about oneself. Who else but a friend can give you a smile and also give you a skeptical look with a raised eyebrow? The endless " I know what you are up to " and not saying the words " i told you so" but you do realise thats what they should be saying to you

Most friends be it at whatever age or time of one's life brings gives us that necessary encouragement , the courage for doing things. It is said that certain people come in to your life for certain reasons and purposes and there fore you shouldn't take people for granted, especially friends; however old the friendship may be.

Hence this is dedicated to all my friends who have come into my life.. however long or short the period may be. Thank you for coming into my life :) :)

Someone .. Somewhere... !!!!!

2010-01-21T21:14:00.005Z

Somewhere there is someone that dreams of your smile, and finds in your presence that life is worthwhile, so when you are lonely remember it's true, someone somewhere is thinking of you !!

Just makes one wonder if its really true..

I read this post written by Lena ( must say that was the first post that i have read in ages.. ) and it got me thinking.. its so true.. that we sometimes wonder.. about things.. the people we care about.. we are so close to.. our life.. be it career or family.. but finally one ends up thinking.. does that special someone think and feel the same way about us as we feel about them..

I have heard ppl say .. oh so you are in love..

hnnm do u want to be in love????

Letting someone inside you .. in your heart and allowing them to know you .. who you really are???

Making yourselves vulnerable to that person.. who knows how to cut through all your defenses and walls that you have built up to protect yourselves.. from getting hurt.. because thats all we are worried about at the end of the day.. getting hurt.. by the one person who we trust the most..

And the answer is yes..

I'm posting lyrics of a song Someone Somewhere by Jason Reeves.. ( I deleted few lines though.. )

Someone is waiting
Someone who understands exactly how you feel
Exactly how you feel..
Someone is dreaming
Someone is hoping just that this will be the day
That this will be the day..
That you take your eyes off the ground
Out of the blue
And see that someone is looking right
Back at you..

Maybe that someone's me
Maybe it's meant to be
Lovers, strangers

Maybe it's chemistry
Maybe it's hard to see that someone is the right one

Nobody's perfect no one really knows the truth
All we've got's a point of view..

There's too many questions and too many reasons not to try

But you should take your eyes off the ground
Out of the blue
And see that someone is looking right
Back at you..

Where ya gonna go from here??
Cause everything you need's out there
And you can have it if you dare
If you dare
There's someone somewhere..

Take care..happy searching :) !!!!

The Butterfly Effect..

2009-09-15T13:48:00.004+01:00

The Butterfly Effect...How Your Life Matters,
by Andy Andrews

Not long ago, I finally told the story of when, at the age of twenty-three, homeless and scared, I was given guidance in a most unusual fashion by an old man named Jones. What the old man told me did nothing less than change my life and my future. He said..."With a little perspective you can live a life of permanent purpose."

When I asked what he meant, the old man answered with a question. "Do you sometimes find yourself unconsciously judging your actions by level of importance?" I frowned a bit, not certain I understood. "For instance, "he continued, "the time you spend with friends is important, but the time you spend with family, is more important. You might rank an hour fishing as very important, thirty minutes visiting a sick friend in the hospital much more important than the fishing, and a sixty second conversation with a convenience store clerk as not very important at all."

I nodded my understanding and he returned to his initial point. "When you know that everything matters - that every move counts as much as any other - you will begin living a life of permanent purpose. A life of permanent purpose will make you a better parent, a better spouse, and a more valuable friend. Your productivity and financial success will soar to new heights while the old days of uncertainty, doubt, and depression fade into the past."

Of course, that conversation with Jones changed me. But even more, it became the guiding force that produced the kind of speaker and author I have become. You see, I understand fully that my very value as an author and speaker must ultimately be judged by the success you achieve. And as I consult with companies or speak to organizations and teams, I am keenly aware that much of my client's (your) ability to succeed beyond imagination depends upon my ability to prove this very concept!

When a sales organization sees proof that casual conversations in town matter just as much as an arranged meeting with a major prospect -

When the second string right-guard sees proof that his every action on and off the field, whether he plays or not, is as critical to the team's successful season as everything the starting quarterback does -

When a teenager sees and understands proof that every choice made in leisure today will affect the choices that will be available to him in more pressing times ahead -

When one lives a life of permanent purpose, sales figures soar, team chemistry thrives, and teenage decisions become wiser and more cautious. And these are just a few examples of what will happen... Simply put, when we understand that every action matters, every result of our actions immediately improves!

In these pages, I know you will find hope and direction for yourself, but I am most excited that you will now be equipped to lead others to their own life of permanent purpose! My hope for our families, our places of worship, our businesses, our nation, and our world is an incredible life of permanent purpose that can be achieved when at last we understand: Every move we make and every action we take, matters not just for us, but for all of us...and for all time.

Forgiveness and Trust !!!!!

2009-05-06T12:02:00.007+01:00

Trust is both important and dangerous. It is important because it allows us to form relationships with others and to depend on others—for love, for advice, for help . Trust always involves the risk that the trusted person (hereafter, the “trustee”) will not pull through for the trusting person (hereafter, the “truster”). If the truster could guarantee that the trustee would pull through, then the truster would have no need to trust that person. The truster therefore cannot assume, while trusting, that the trustee will do what s/he is trusted to do because the trustee has no legitimate choice in the matter. Since people often can choose whether to pull through for us, we often need to trust them.

Trusting someone, no matter what your relationship to them, is taking a huge leap of faith and is very difficult to do. Everyone has some degree and level of trust issues. And each person allows their trust issues to color the way they see the world around them, not just in relationships. It's hard to know if you can trust someone even a little bit, and trying to decide whether or not to trust someone is difficult at best, impossible at worst.

When we have been hurt by a person close to us, how do we let go of resentment, forgive, and rebuild trust? It's important to understand that letting go of resentment is something we can do regardless of whether the other person takes responsibility for his/her actions.Letting go of resentment can be achieved by personal journaling or by finding a compassionate and empathic friend who will listen to your story.But can you forgive the other person? Forgiving depends on your understanding the feelings and motives of the person that hurt you, and making sure that the other person understands how you were affected. Now to rebuild the trust. I may be able to let go of resentment, I may come to understand the other person and forgive him/her, but if I do not see evidence of this willingness to make changes, it may not be possible for me to trust that person again.Rebuilding trust is a gradual process that can take weeks, months, or sometimes even years.

For it is mutual trust, even more than mutual interest that holds human associations together. Our friends seldom profit us but they make us feel safe...A human being is only interesting if he's in contact with himself. I learned you have to trust yourself, be what you are, and do what you ought to do the way you should do it. You have got to discover you, what you do, and trust it.

Now I am adding a Poem written by Mehr called Trust [ which made me think and write about trust and forgiveness , thanks Mehr :-) ]

Suddenly I find myself in this scorching summer heat

In the middle of a desert..

the earth refusing to be kind

The sun glaring at me with cruel eyes

Devoid of all softness, your comforting presence

Everything that I felt homely... is gone now

Worshipping idols,

having faith in their stone cold hearts

I fell astray from the reality...

The reality of God

The reality of the kind angels

The motherhood of nature

And the comfort of family....

You made me deny all for you

And then... you denied me....

I'm astray... searching for life once again

A long, lonely road ahead of me....

O mama, come hold me...

I miss you Papa, scold me for who I have been

Come back and love me....

I feel so indignified.... all the ugliness inside me

Make me cry and let me wash them away

I want to be the baby girl in your arms mama

The little girl you loved so much....

I want to be your pride papa

The little girl who spread wonders when she smiled...

A long way to go... this is just the beginning .

But in this life.. I learn

We cannot always have what we yearn

No matter how much we love it so...

Trust can be the hardest thing you'll ever do.

New Beginning !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2009-03-29T20:08:00.008+01:00

I wish that you could feel
My arms about you tight
Holding you up close
All thru out the night

That you could hear me say
All you need to hear
As I tell you of my love
Whispered soft against your ear

All the words you said to me
That seemed to be so true
Were nothing but thoughtless lies
That I thought would never come from you

They seemed so real and seemed so true
I was begining to think
That I was in love with you

But I should have known that it was all an act
That I was just another part
Just another girl to add

To your list of broken hearts

And yes I still Love you
Yes I still Care
But Trust is essential
And that is not there

I used to cry so many times a day
but lately those tears have been fading away
Yes, it's been hard,
but I'm getting back my life that
I've even managed to put away the knife

Do I still love you? Yes, I do
but another part of me is getting over you

I am hoping that my brighter day
soon will come and
maybe, just maybe
I'll find that special someone.

What I think ...... !!!!!!!

2009-03-08T14:12:00.010Z

In the past few weeks all I have been hearing from my friends and close ones are statements like ..

"God , What's wrong ? Why doesn't he understand what I'm trying to say.. "

"I thought.. it was all going great.. and then this happened.. "

"It happened out of no where.. I didn't have a clue that this was about to happen ... To me "

"God.. I feel like such a fool..."

Am sure most of us have had these kind of thoughts and feelings when it comes to the special someone or a close friend.. and we end up going.. Why ???

What does the person really expect of us ???

And this is what most of my guy friends ask me.. Well I thought let me just write something about it.. Hopefully if possible give some insights ( If i can that is....and plus I don't wanna give away all our secrets now.. would I ;) ]

Other day i came across this Post from Still Thinking.. and her recent post titled We , the women . Its giving a small insight the way we women think.. And it is so true..

Sometimes we really don't know what we want.. or why exactly we want certain things .. but just that we want it. :)

I am confusing you already aren't I. Hehe sorry that's how we are :).. or in this case I'm. :P

Now what is it that keeps any relationship healthy..?? Well this is what I think are important for any kind of relationship.. for it to go on smoothly.

There is this Mutual respect : Respect in a relationship means that each person values what the other person is and understands it .. and would never challenge it.

Then comes Trust..Say you happen to talk to some other random guy and your BF passes by or vice versa.. Yes there might be some jealousy.. but then that's a natural emotion. How one deals with it, that's entirely a different ball game.

This is where Honesty plays a big role. This goes hand in hand with Trust because it is tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest about things.

Support.. Its not only in bad times that you need the support.. you still would like someone to be with you when you are at the top of the world and feeling good about what has happened . Some people don't know how to handle the good things.. they will be there for giving you the shoulder to cry on but not otherwise.. and vice versa.

Communication.. The most vital of the lot.. Yes men and women don't seem to speak the same language or think the same way.. but then that's why one has to talk in order to understand what the other person is trying to tell you. And in case if you need to think about it before you talk it out then the person will appreciate you letting them know about it. :)

Now coming back to the statements and this whole being in the relationship thing.. One would wonder why people understand what they really want.

Is it because one's wants ( or the priorities ) changes as time goes by ???

Because most of the time.. everyone is so easy to be around with.. Just our normal self's.. But then something happens.. and we go in to they Hyper mode.. Well for girls at least we always have the excuse of PMS ( plz guys don't ask me what that is.. can't explain :P ).

But what excuse do the guys have ? ( will love to hear about this one.. )

I have known instances when I have been introduced to people and to laugh at them. I know its rude. Its not that I'm perfect either I do have my flaws. But then I think I don't emphasis on my flaws as much as the other person had. It could just be the way they say certain words.. or their laugh.. And you just find it hilarious. ( I think I'm more like the Chandler from Friends who has to comment on things that he sees . )

A small tip for all my male friends out there. The best thing that you can do if you are in a relationship and would like to understand the woman is to Remember . Whether

remembering her birthday or something that you guys had spoken about a while back because when you remember it shows that you care enough to tell it back to her. And that means you were paying attention to her . I am sure if we ask our parents especially our dad's they will tell us the same thing. :)

Because any time a man forgets .. woman feels that he doesn't care enough about her.Even though the guy must have showed her how he cares for her in different other ways.

And most men ( after the long conversations that I have had been the agony aunt for few of my friends ) they love the straightforwardness when we talk.. and they like their women to be confident .. they like to take care of their women how much ever we say that we are independent this is one way of them showing their chivalry .. so we need to deal with it.. :)

Now I shall wait to see what you guys think.. :) chao

P:S I am also including a post that my friend Karthik had written couple of months back and I think thats another beautiful narration of what I was trying to tell here. Plz follow this link. Click here. I hope you will either leave comments over there or here about your views about the same. Thank you :)

Think of ...........me !!!!!!!!!!!

2009-03-03T13:30:00.014Z

Another addition to my random thoughts.. I am sure everyone has does this..

Think..

Come on there wouldn't be one single person who at some point or the other just sat back and thought about what is happening in his/her life and how one can plan ahead. Or sometimes just randomly think about things which is no way connected to our mundane life.. but still we do that.. Just think about it.. considering this is part of my random thoughts.. that shows how much i do think ... :)

Some one asks you .. especially when you have this lost or blank face.. all you say to them is.."Oh I was just thinking.. " and if the next question was what about.. Then the immediate reply will be.. "Nothing.. "

So here I am doing a post on Think..

N why the title.. Well I love this song from - Phantom of the Opera
And it goes likes as follows ( PS: this has got just Christine Da'ae's lyrics )

Think of me, think of me fondly,
when we've said goodbye.
Remember me once in a while -
please promise me you'll try.
When you find that, once again,
you long to take your heart
back and be free - if you ever find a moment, spare a thought for me

We never said our love was evergreen,
or as unchanging as the sea -
but if you can still remember
stop and think of me . . .
Think of all the things
we've shared and seen -
don't think about the things
which might have been . . .

Think of me, think of me
waking, silent and resigned.
Imagine me, trying too hard
to put you from my mind.
Recall those days look
back on all those times,
think of the things we'll never do -
there will never be a day,
when I won't think of you . . .

Flowers fades,
The fruits of summer fade,
They have their seasons,
so do we
but please promise me,
that sometimes you will think of me!

And finally finishing off with few quotes that I have found ..

"We must always think about things, and we must think about things as they are, not as they are said to be. " ( Hnmmm well.. u see.. :P )

"I still live, I still think: I still have to live, for I still have to think. " ( This one .. i completely agree upon )

"Men think about women. Women think about what men think about them." ( OK may be not always.. :P )

"What you think about when you don't have to think, shows what you really are. " ( Don't know does it.. !!! )

“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant." Gotchaaaa !!!!!!!!!!

That's all for now.. Now I will go back to my thinking and wait to see what you guys have thought about this.. :P chaoo

Culture.. Ha! Surely ,You Jest !

2009-02-21T16:22:00.005Z

Well Karthik uff Kartz and I have written an combined post on the various culture and religious difference that we are getting to see around us.

This has been posted on Kartz blog Contorted Reality under the same title : Culture.. Ha! Surely , You Jest !

I apologise before hand for the odd profanity being used in the post :) .

Hope to see your views about this.

The A B C's of Feelings...

2009-02-19T13:37:00.010Z

Ok dont ask me what exactly got me into writing about Feelings.. but here I am writing about it..[ Or the real reason being this was in my drafts for a while and i thought.. let me just post it anyways :P ]

Feeling is such a weird word if I could say that because anything and everything one needs to describe about one's emotion you have to say "I feel .. " or " I felt.." be it experience or intution about that particular thing.. But end of the day its the feel that you get about that thing.. How much ever you don't want to or want to.. You just can't seem to get rid of this feeling..

The other day one of my friends was advising me about something.. which according to her I wasn't supposed to be doing..

Why .. well the reason was her GUT FEELING..

Well there you go, one has again come up with

the feel of the things..

Now I read somewhere.. ( can't remember where though ) that feelings are our natural responses to our thoughts and intentions. So that means its some kind of a feedback mechanism based on our thoughts and intentions i.e we automatically feel good if things are going according to plan and we obviously feel bad when it isn't.

Anyways I just thought of these lines ( sometime back .. i just randomly put them together.. so sorry if it sounds a bit here n there .. ). Hehe thats why all this introduction for the lines which is coming next.. ;)

So here it goes..

I have many feelings

that i keep inside..

some sad n some happy

just because i don't tell

n i do pretend

does that mean everything is all right ?

I always wonder

why do we have tears ??

even when we are happy or sad..

You think you know everything

especially how I feel

Did you know that I was sad

feeling lonely..

angry..

miserable..

This is all so real..

what's inside me..

But I do know this..

coz there is something with in me

which says..

there is hope after all

because tomm is another brand new day

PS: Random thoughts guys.. just having lots of things goin on my mind right now.. Well do let me know what u think about my rant.. or the feel :) chao

PPS : An interesting quote that I just came across.. Felt it was apt for my post.. It goes as follows.

Sometimes when I say "Oh I'm fine . " I want someone to look me in the eye and say " Tell the truth ".

More Rain

2009-02-17T19:55:00.005Z

You always hurt the one you love

She didn't remember who told her this.. but then now she finally realised what it means and how it felt.. the pain.. the hurt.. the anger.. the disappointment .. the frustration.. and all the memories..

Why did it have to be now.. ?

Especially now... when she was moving on..
She knew her past would come back to haunt her.. Considering she had never had a closure from it.But then she thought that she had moved on..forgotten all about the past and had let go all of it.

But why did one single phone call change it all..

Why does it have to RAIN always when you are receiving a bad news.. ?

Rachel knew she had to face it all.. She had to tell Alice what had happened. Probably Alice would know what to do.

Later on that night she poured it all out to Alice .. Outside the rain and thunder continuing and Rachel was feeling much calmer now.She knew she had to listen to Alice's advice and call him up and speak to him face to face. Listen to and talk to him about things. And then yes finally she can move on.

YES!!!!!! She was now ready to face Sean .

YES, she would call him back and agree to meet him.. Hopefully this would be the last time.

The chance to explain why she ran away from him .. from her life at home.

P:S Sorry guys for not being quite regular on your blogs . Will catch up on them . Hope you all had a lovely valentine's day :)

He says ... She says...

2009-02-01T21:03:00.004Z

He Says...

You would think with Valentine's Day coming right around the corner I would condone any relationship that sets hearts fluttering. But that is incorrect in this particular situation.

Frankly, I agree whole heartedly with your friends and I would be there right along with them in teasing you about this apparent crush that is not only a year younger, but also the same age as your little brother...Chew on that for a second.

Now I'm sorry if I'm coming off a little rude here, don't get me wrong, I enjoy it when people catch that love bug in the air. I'm not that cold- hearted either to shoot down your idea so quickly. I have a significant other and I know how easy it is to want to jump into something when you are attracted to someone.

However, I have a few things I think you should take into account before making up your mind on this matter. Not only is this boy a year younger than you, but on top of that he is only in seventh grade. There may only be a year difference, but the maturity level between an eighth grader and a seventh grader is enormous. Especially when you consider that girls are known to mature much quicker than boys. Don't get me wrong, dating someone younger is not a crime. In college it is completely acceptable and even in high school under most circumstances. But let the boy grow up first! He is way too young, and if you did start to date him think about the way high school kids would make fun of you for dating an eighth grader. Sorry, it's not going to work.

Andrew

She Says...

Why are you having second thoughts? Who do you want to please -- yourself or your friends? If you say yes, and decide to go out with this guy, your friends will have no choice but to accept your decision. If they are unable to accept your decision and tease you, you may realize that your friends aren't really that good of friends to you. Friends should be able to accept you unconditionally and want for you what makes you happy. If they do not, I wonder what they do want. Could they be jealous of the attention you are receiving from this guy?

It is quite common and acceptable for girls to date older guys, so why is it unacceptable to date younger guys? I think you should follow your hearts and feelings. You can't tell your friends who to like and they can't tell you, but you can tell them that you need their support and request that they stop the teasing.

I suggest you give yourself permission to say yes and to stop worrying about what other people think. No one can live your life for you; you've got to take charge of your own life. Good luck.

Sue

P:S : This is an old article from The Hindu which I came across again online. And it is so apt for the beginning of this month. Hope you guys liked it. :)

End of Love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2009-01-23T16:23:00.004Z

If love is nothing
But
Illusion of the heart
So let me live in this dream forever
Let me believe still
That you and me
is we
Don't wake me up
I love to dream like that
Don't wake me up
I want to sing my song
Till the end of love

- Anonymous

New year.. New beginnings... !!!!!!

2009-01-19T23:30:00.006Z

Hello all...

Hope everyone is having a rocking new year.. and a great start..

This is my new and improvised blog.. improvised only in the template sense.. Hope you all like it.. :)

I just realised that I haven't posted any quotes for a while.. So I thought I should post something about all the new beginnings that we all have made.. be it new year resolutions or otherwise..
So here they go... they are in no order.. did try my best to make it sound as if its in a continuous flow..

"Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end"

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning , but anyone can start today and make a new ending."

"The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are."

"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from."

"There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world, its the beginning of a new life. "

"Remember today , for it is the beginning of always. Today marks the start of a brave new future filled with all your dreams can hold. Think truly to the future and make those dreams come true."

"The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time."

P:S .Sorry still trying to catch up on every one's posts n comments.. Thank you all for the new year wishes.. and once again a very happy new year.. Now i shall wait for your comments.. :)

Bye Bye 2008...

2008-12-29T23:28:00.002Z

Sorry all for not catching up on your blogs or replying back to the comments you have made for my posts. Will surely catch up with you all soon.

But in the mean time I wish you all a very Happy and Prosperous New Year. Hope all of you have a wonderful year ahead.

Rain

2008-12-11T20:42:00.007Z

Her bags were packed. She didn't know what was left for her here. Everything had come crashing down like the heavy rain . Nothing was the same any more. Her whole world that she believed in had come crashing down on her. She just had to move away from this place. "I should probably call up Alice ( her childhood friend ) once I reach London and ask if I could crash at her place. For how long.. Well nothing's planned and neither was this ".

As soon as Rachel reached London she called Alice who told her to come over to her's with out even any seconds thought.

Alice was really worried about Rachel .When she saw Rachel at her door step she was completely shattered . She still remembered her friend who was always so lively , the life of every party.Now hardly anyone knew if she was in the same room. She was just a ghost of her old self , so dull so lifeless. The laughter had gone away completely just sadness in her eyes. Something had seriously gone wrong in her friends life and she wanted to know what it was. But Rachel didn't wanna talk about it yet. What had gone so wrong that made her change so much?
And she even started hating rain. The gurl who loved to play in the rain , used to find excuses to play and run around the country side was just avoiding it. She just couldn't figure out what happened.

As months went by. Alice starts to sees the glimpses of old Rachel now and again . The occasional laughter , the chatter. Rachel had even got a job in a reputed fashion company. Things were seeming to settle down. And then it was all ruined ..

It had started to rain again..

PS: It's my first attempt to write a short story for the Writer's Lounge. Posting it here before I go ahead and put it up there :) Do let me know your views :)

Award Time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2008-12-06T20:17:00.007Z

It is almost the end of the year.. and so much has happened.. From making new friends and seeing so much of blood shed.. from the Olympics to the problems in Tibet.. and to the recent terrorist attacks.. So much has happened.

I thought this would be a nice time to acknoweldge all my blogger friends how much difference they have made to me.. the way I think and for being there.. Because even though we haven't met all of us are someway or the other part of each others life..

Thank you for all for being part of my life ..

I have got a list of awards that I would like to dedicate .
Some of these awards that I have recieved from fellow bloggers which I would like to pass it on.
( and also its long over due )

First one is the "Arte y Pico" award .
This award was created for bloggers who inspire others with their creativity and their talents, also for contributing to the blogging world in whatever medium.
I had recieved this from Man in the painting

And I would like to dedicate this to

Keshi
Kartz
Mehreen
Cess
Lena

Also I would like to dedicate it back to MIP coz ur truly inspiring.. :)

The next award is the RockinRiter Award and I dedicate this to

Stephen
Sandeep
The Lover
Rajesh
Pretha
Preety ( when she write's :P )
Chirag
Positive Thinking

The next award is the Lovely blogger award which goes to all the ppl mentioned above
and
Anu
Anurag
Shajji
Barath
Jane
Corrine
Shantanu
Shruti
Suhani
Still thinking
Sweet torment.
As you guys have made me and my writings feel worthwhile.. So thank you all..

And last I would like to give the Award called Blogger Friends Forever awarded to me by Keshi :)

This is for the ppl who I have found on the blogger site and some way or the other have become a part of my life as well.

Cess, Keshi , Kartz , Stephen , Pretha , Anish , Sandeep , Rajesh , Preety and Shajji .
Thank you guys.

Congrats all. Thank you once again for being there :). Hope all of you are having a lovely weekend. I'm still in the process of catching up on ur blogs.. So hopefully I should be checking them out soon.. Ciao

Mumbai's 9/11

2008-11-30T11:54:00.004Z

The luxurious Taj Mahal Palace, the Gateway is a potent symbol of old and new India. But last week these icons of the Mumbai cityscape earned a new horrific significance as terrorists used them to strike a blow? Was it all part of the global jihad against the West? And since it happened in Mumbai makes it even more promising to make it a headline as it is an emerging power in the world?

The impact has indeed been instant and extensive, reaching into the worlds of politics, business and even sport, and on all levels - internationally, regionally and nationally in India.

Quoting Alex Chamberlain, a sports website director who escaped from the hotel through a fire exit. The militants ordered everyone upstairs, told them to put their hands up and asked if there were any British or Americans, he said. "My friend said to me: 'Don't be a hero, don't say you are British'."

So does that mean that this is a direct retaliation towards the American and British citizens. Has this got to do anything with the fact that these are the powerful nations in the world who are a constant threats to al-Qaeda or any such organisation and there very existence.

Questions are also raised on the security system and the intelligence of India. Considering Mumabai being the financial hub of the nation and the targets were landmarks with in the country , the group of terrorists had their homework done quite well. They were thus prepared to fight till there last breath and not give up. So question being who has trained them ? Considering these kind of operations takes months or years of training and research . So how have people have had such a security lapse.

India is a big and vast nation and it is surrounded by sea on 3 sides and thus making it a prey for easy access. So what would be the measures taken to make sure that this doesnot get repeated again.

India has been fighting terrorism for a long time now. But the attack that began Wednesday night, when armed men got off boats at the tourist hub of Gateway of India and targeted 10 landmark locations, ended across the road at the heritage Taj Mahal Palace and Tower Hotel Thursday morning in a hail of bullets and blasts took more than 60 hours to end , an hostage situation which was one of its kind.

Many countries are now looking into their own internal securities because no one was prepared for such kind of well planned attacks .

Like everyone is saying
The terror trauma has ended, but the anguish for many has just begin.

Going away !!!

2008-11-20T13:29:00.003Z

Hi All ,

Sorry I wont be in the blogger world for a couple of weeks. As you would have already noticed that I haven't been able to visit your blogs lately.
Am sorry about that. I am a bit tied up with my research and going away for that.Will be back by end of this month.

So will see you all soon and catch up on your blogs then.
Till then you all do take care.

P:S Keshi hope you are back .
And Cecile did you get the tickets??

True love !!!!!!!!!

2008-11-11T09:40:00.006Z

What is True love???

In most cases we think:Yes , this is true love, when in fact it’s not. But then if this ain’t love than what is? There are plenty of things that we confuse with love.

It could be just the basic instinct. The feelings can be passionate and crazy, but in fact both people may want only sex. And after it all the misunderstanding starts, and once infatuated lovers will find out that they have nothing in common and sometimes they don’t even know what to talk with each other.

Another variant is when people lack support, care and attention to their person or they just scared to stay single. Being with someone can be a habit when one simply got used to the other. It can either be a sick addiction or some self-interest. People call all these types of relationship love just by mistake or trying to conceal the true nature of it.

But then what does real love look and feel like? Maybe it’s when two people seem to know each other for ages and even in their previous lives. They can go on talking and talking and conversation never lacks topics and never gets dull. Or people don’t have to say anything because they understand each other without words. And those moments, minutes and even hours of silence are never uncomfortable. True love is when partners complete one another, when they’re together it’s peaceful, the whole other world with it’s sufferings and problems doesn’t exist and nothing even matters.

True love means understanding. One trusts another more than him/herself and feels ready to satisfy every little need of a partner. Two people don’t stop for a second looking into each other eyes.

It’s said that two persons truly in love aren’t looking at each other but in the one direction. And this is rather reasonable because they don’t say nothing “this is yours and this is mine” and share everything: friends, enemies, interests, problems and etc. One has his/her own identity but sees him/herself only as a part of the other.

Still real love is not a relationship of property. If you really love someone you may say “I belong to you”but always be ready to let go if it makes the person you love happy.Jealousy stands out of the true love. How can one be jealous if there’s so much love and faithfulness? Real love doesn’t long for power, it doesn’t want to hurt, doesn’t want to punish for mistakes, it’s self-sacrificing and ready to forgive other and other again. But it’s wrong to think that true love is always a suffering, it only means that you take a person as he or she is and don’t expect the one you love to be perfect.

True love isn’t supposed to blow your mind, yet it doesn’t tend to get and to possess – it’s a and very special state of a soul.

But the question what true love is still has no definite answer. Do we truly love only once in our life? At what age are we supposed to meet our love? Does it last for a lifetime or just for a while? Probably everyone has his/her own answers to this questions. The truth is that no one should spend life chasing ideals or building relationships by some model of a true love. One will probably fail and miss the real thing beyond all this.

Finally I end by a quote from Eric Segal

True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights.If you hear bells, get your ears checked.

Also adding a poem called - Words Unspoken by Priyanka from Writer's Lounge.

Words Unspoken…

Words unspoken

Feelings unexpressed

A tornado of emotions

A life so messed

Do you know you are my soul mate?

A look from you sends my worries away

It’s all in your deep eyes my love

I just wish I could only say

Can’t you read my eyes?

You’ll see everything that’s unsaid

No matter how much I try to hide

It comes up…dying to be expressed

I’m a prisoner of your thoughts

You have encaged my life

Slit my heart and my soul

With a love coated knife

I dream, I hope

I cry, I can’t cope

Will this pain ever end??

I am too tired…can’t anymore pretend.

Take my hand !!!!!!!!!

2008-10-29T20:38:00.003Z

When you feel you're all alone
When your heart has no place to turn
When your love has no home
Take my hand

Take my hand
Hold on tight
Let me lift you up
Over the pain
Over the past
Into my arms

Let me take you to that place
That words cannot reach
Don't let go , feel us fly
Don't wonder any more, up into the sky

Take my hand
Hold on tight
Let me lift you up
Over the pain
Over the past
Into my arms

P:S: I came across these verses when I was reading a book called "Life's too short to frost a cupcake ".. lovely words..Dont you think.. well I did.. and thought you all should give it a read..So here's me posting it for you all.. So what do you all think about it ??

Tagged..Twice..

2008-10-23T16:43:00.009+01:00

Ok Stephen Tagged me twice.. So this is me doing both my tags..

And well better late than never..

So here I go..

The First one - Movie Tag..

1. Name five of your all time Favourite Movies.
But I am naming four because these what has touched me and my all time favourites..
(A) Manichitrathazhu made in different languages last been Bhool Bhulaiya in Hindi. [ poster on the right ]
(B) Notting Hill
(C) The Ultimate Gift
(D) Kanda Naal Mudhal - [ poster on left ]

2. Name one movie which you recommend as a "must see".
Taare Zameen Par / The Pursuit of Happyness

3.one and only one movie that you have seen many times.
Jab we met.. this is the one which I have seen quite a lot lately..

4.which movie comes to your mind when I say funniest?
Runaway Bride

5. which movie made you really emotional?
Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge

6. which movie series was as interesting as the first part?
Harry potter , Die Hard , Dhoom..

7. which movie didnt, according to you, live up to your expectations?
Guru , The Da Vinci Code

8. which movie surprised you?
Jab we met.. Because I ended up liking Kareena Kapoor / Chak De India.. such a novel theme..

Now to the second part of the Tag.. rather the second tag..

So I type the following in Google ..
Anila needs ....
And here are the interesting 6 answers ...

(a)One really needs to be worthy to receive an album deal in the first place; something we get here extremely easily. Punam and Anila: We are still lagging ...
Album deal.. ??? and who is Punam??? Am I going to be famous???

(b)I think anila needs to take a good hard look at herself. she is an insult to Islam. Wearing a hijab is a simple move that can lead to many self-betterment....
Hijab??? I'm an Insult to Islam sob sob.. But I dont have anything against them..

(c)Anila Fund today announced its investment in PowerWAN Inc., ... The PowerWAN solution has been developed based on extensive needs analysis and market ...
Yaaayy I have a fund rather a trust in my name.. whooohoooo yiipppeeeyy..

(d)Anila's expansion beyond its historical Silicon Valley base is driven by the ... managing your organization, Goliath can help you meet your business needs. ...
???????????

(e) They recognized that success is measured with different yardsticks and that Anand' s achievements are truly remarkable. Anila is very proud of the fact that...
Anand???? who is that now??

(f) My husband is a loving person, he fulfils all my financial needs but sometimes I ... Anila is 24 years old and has been living with England for three years. ...
Oh my godddd is that me.. am I married???

Oh well am not going to check more.. I might end up knowing that I have kids as well.. oh well.. Thats my tags done.. yaaaaaaaay..

P:S : Not tagging anyone.. As most of them have already done it.. hehe.. If you havent feel free to take it up :)

Random Thoughtssss - Theories of Friendship !!!!!!

2008-10-16T14:26:00.007+01:00

Have you ever thought.. Why we are the way we are???

Confusing..???

I hope not..

Is it because of the situations that we come across/ or have come acrossed.... the family to which we were born in to.... the friends we choose....

And if so what was it that defined us to what we have become.. ?

I would say Friends....
They are the one.. well rather the most important catalyst that has shaped us to the way we are now.. It is true.. You choose your friends and not your relatives.. Thus they define us more than anybody else.. ( apart from parents or sibling..)

May be it sounds very repetitive.. But then we spends so much time with our friends than with anybody else.. Even your colleagues end up becoming your friend.. and hence becomes a part of your life.. Thus knowing more about you than your family..

True friendship is important to most people. I can count my genuine friends on one hand. For me, a real friend is somebody that remains loyal over the course of time though you may not see them very often. A true friend also tells you what you need to know as opposed to what you want to hear. They are there for you in good times and bad.

I was thinking about this.. and I thought of googling it up.. So I googled up "Theories for Friendship.."

And I was surprised with the interesting results that I got to read..
So here I am writing a blog on this random thought of mine..

Here is the most interesting one that I came across.. I 'm leaving the links on so that ppl can see what each theory means .. and thusI don't exactly have to explain it much.. ;) [ I am a bit lazy you see ]

Here are academic theories about how we resist attempts at persuasion. ( Really dont know what they were trying to say now. )

Factors that increase friendship

Ben Franklin Effect: after helping another person we like them more.
Contact Hypothesis: bringing enemies together leads towards friendship.
Dilution Effect: information about others reduces stereotyping.
Empathy-Altruism Hypothesis: if we feel empathy we are likely to help.
Friendship: there are several factors that increase chances of friendship.
Law of Attraction: similar attitudes leads to friendship.
Matching Hypothesis: romantic partners tend to be similarly attractive.
Mere Exposure Theory: exposure to people increases liking.
Propinquity Effect: meeting and interacting increase chance of friendship.
Reinforcement-Affect Theory: both forms of conditioning leads us to like others.
Repulsion Hypothesis: we prefer those with similar attitudes (and vice versa).

Stages of friendship

Social Penetration Theory: relationships go through stages of increasing familiarity.
Stage Theory: relationships go through several stages.
Stimulus-Value-Role Model: we select friends through a three stage model.
Terminating relationships: relationships break down in stages.

Other friendship factors

Attachment Style: we attach to others in secure or anxious ways.
Attachment Theory: we attach to others in reciprocal and primitive ways.
Buffer Effect of Social Support: supported people feel less stress.
Communication Accommodation Theory: we talk/act like those we like.
Love: there are several styles of love.

Well I hope that was a good read to all.. cant wait to see what everyone thinks about the theories.. If you agree or don't agree.. And if you do agree.. which is the theory that you agree about and whyy ???

And now how can I finish my blog with out giving couple of quotes for the posts..
I'm giving few meaningful.. and few funny one's ..

"Mother my friends are no longer my friends ,And the games we once played have no meaning ,I've gone serious and shy and they can't figure why ,So they've left me to my own daydreaming."
- Suzanne Vega

"Just to prove i was right that it's harder to be friends than lovers and you shouldn't try and mix the two, cause if you do and then you're still unhappy, then you know that the problem is you."
- Liz Phair

"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one." ~ C.S. Lewis

"I got a lotta best friends. Some o' them I don't even hardly know!" ~ Archie Bunker

"Marriage is a sort of friendship recognized by the police." ~ Anonymous

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up." ~ Bible: Ecclesiastes

"To find a friend one must close one eye. To keep him - two."~ Norman Douglas

And Finallyyyy

"A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked." ~ Bernard Meltzer

Now I shall wait..

A Letter to Every Indian - APJ

2008-10-08T13:45:00.010+01:00

A Letter to Every Indian - APJ

The President of India DR. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam 's Speech in Hyderabad .

Why is the media here so negative?

Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements?

We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?

We are the first in milk production.

We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.

We are the second largest producer of wheat.
We are the second largest producer of rice.

Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit. There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.

I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.

In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime.. Why are we so NEGATIVE?

Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T.Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology.

Why this obsession with everything imported?

Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India. For her, you and I will have to build this developed India . You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation.

Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance.

Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours.

YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke. The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.

YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it?

Take a person on his way to Singapore. Give him a name - 'YOURS'. Give him a face - 'YOURS'. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are. You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity… In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai . YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah.

YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds (Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else. YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son. Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand .

Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston??? We are still talking of the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India?

Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay, Mr. Tinaikar, had a point to make. 'Rich people's dogs are walked on the streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place,' he said. 'And then the same people turn around to criticize and blame the authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements. What do they expect the officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dog feels the pressure in his bowels?
In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan.Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.

We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.
We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity.
This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public.

When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system?

What does a system consist of? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU. When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away.

Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England . When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.

Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too…. I am echoing J. F. Kennedy's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians…..

'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY'

Lets do what India needs from us.

Thank you,

Dr. Abdul Kalam

P:S : I got this as a forward and I thought I should put this up as a post. Now I really don't know if it was actually what he spoke at Hyderabad in his tenure by our then president but then the thoughts are so geniune. Even though its a speech completely written in respect to INDIA am sure its not too difficult to put one's own country in its place as each country is suffering in its own ways by different things.. And all it takes for us to change is one's mind set.. The thought that.. Yes, Even I can change things.. If that mindset is achieved.. Then change wont be so far away.

Life and its Moments !!!

2008-10-01T10:40:00.011+01:00

What is Life???

Life can be like a roller coaster...

And just when you think you've had enough,
and your ready to get off the ride and take the calm, easy merry-go round...
You change your mind, throw you hands in the airand ride the roller coaster all over again.
That's exhilaration...that's living a bit on the edge...that's being ALIVE.

Life is filled with so many exciting twists and turns.Hop off the straight and narrow whenever you can and take the winding paths. Experience the exhilaration of the view from the edge. Because the moments spent there, that take your breath away, are what make you feel truly alive."

Moments are what that shape and define our lives;
they determine who and where we are today, where we want to go in the future. Through

relationships or life, the moments define what kind of person or friends you want in your life. It's the moments that you win or lose, the moments that someone makes you feel happy or sad, the moments, the pictures, vacations, events, the encounters that you will always remember, the unforgettable 1st's that you remember & sometimes hold on to forever, they are all moments. Live for the one moment upon you, for it can change your life forever so make the best of it. Life is short, so don't go another day, hour or minute and regret a moment that could have changed your life!

Now let me ask you this.. Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.Thats how it leaves you with..

I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; Love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. Love also there when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry.

There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:
This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me... or leave me. Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad - you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

I've been making a list of the things they don't teach you at school. They don't teach you how to love somebody. They don't teach you how to be famous. They don't teach you how to be rich or how to be poor. They don't teach you how to walk away from someone you don't love any longer. They don't teach you how to know what's going on in someone else's mind. They don't teach you what to say to someone who's dying. They don't teach you anything worth knowing.

But Life does ...

P:S : This blog is made of different quotes that I had come across on different websites and I liked them so much that I made a post out of them. I hope they are interconnected enough to make sense.. :)

Marriage and Babies.. !!!!!

2008-09-25T18:55:00.012+01:00

This is like a continuation of my previous post..
Considering that once all of us understand our partners.. or at least we think we do or did.. then the next step would be marriage ( and this I'm saying after all the lets live together and going around for few years to see how compatible we are.. )

Now wikipedia gives a lovely definition for Marriage
"Marriage is a personal union of individuals." This union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually called a wedding and the married status created is sometimes called wedlock."

Now what is this personal union of individuals??

Is it the thought that.. from now on.. I have got someone in my life.. who would support me and let me know when things go bad.. and guide me accordingly.. be it what the circumstance.
I love the wordings they say at the Christian wedding.. " Be it for better or for worse ".
Now most religions perform a wedding ceremony to solemnize the beginning of a marriage. Some regard marriage as simply a contract, while others regard it as a sacred institution. Be it in Hinduism were marriage is seen as sacred duty that entails both religious and social obligations; were as in Islam, marriage being whenever the individuals feel ready, financially and emotionally.Then you also have the practices of Dowry. Different religion have different names for it like the bride price, Morning gifts etc. But lets not get in to that.. We can have that for another post..

Now coming back to the holy matrimony..

What if you thought you could stay with the person for the rest of your life and then you realised that he/she was not the one that you thought they were when you got married??? Differences have cropped up.This could be due finances, stress or even certain habits of the person that you thought you could handle but alas you are not.The circumstances have changed.

Then what would you do??

One of my friends who is blissfully married said to me.. "We both are independent and it is good.Because you'll not always be thinking about your every move to make sure he's there to hold your hand. "
Well guess it works.. No one wants a clingy person or a complete control freak in their life..

Now the second part of my topic..

Babies

If everything goes right.. I mean everything... OK then yes you are ready or you might already on the journey towards having a baby.. or babies.. in case you are having twins.. etc..
It will be months before they talk, walk or even sit up. They are always referred as this small , little bundle of joy..And yes like the title suggests.. Am talking about babies..
Why babies you all might wonder..
Just like that..
No apparent reason.. apart from me having one .. lol..
hehe ok ok.. my mom reads this she just my be admitted to the hospital..

The whole point of writing this blog was in the past couple of weeks.. I have been across so many new born babies.. and they all are sooo cuttteee.. beautiful.. handsome.. adorable..sweeettt... awww mannn.. they are just awesome..

Well have you ever wondered what exactly the babies think???
Am adding few more baby cartoons for a glimpse into the baby world.

And now I'm waiting for the comments :)

Men are from Mars N Women from Venus !!!!!!!!!!!!!...

2008-09-17T10:31:00.007+01:00

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.. well that's what the famous book title by John Gray goes. Well since its a catchy title thought of borrowing it for my blog title.

Now over the past few days I have been coming across this constant topic of my gal friends trying to understand the men in their life..and guy friends about them not understanding the women in their life.. Most of my conversations lately have started off either as I don't understand him or her.. Depending with whom am sitting and talking to.. Be it their fiance's , Bf/ GF's , father/mother , brother/sister or even a friend. I had even come across few blogs.. like Lena's .. So I thought let me see what I could come up with.. and ofcourse the comments I receive back..and who knows we could probably end up clearing few more airs around..

Now the main question I always or keep thinking about is.. Do we women end up thinking more than guys or do guys also think a lot.
I know we women are very emotional.. and some of us have wear our hearts on our sleeves but I know few men who are the same. But not when it comes to expressing their feelings..They could be passionate about their sports.. their work.. family.. But when it comes to letting their gf's or companion's its just not their... Most of the time they wont open up.. either could be because the person in question is not worth it.. Or you think that you are not worthy of that person.. On the whole you are left left feeling alone.. and not wanted.. Because that's what it is all about feeling... or how you are made to feel.

And then comes the trademark conflicts.. feeling angry.. let down .. and all this is because.. Both the sides are not talking .. or not making an effort to talk or let the other person know how they feel or why they feel like that.. Due to which both of sides are left wondering what is going wrong and why is it happening like that.. and leads to both sides drifting away from each other and later on realising how much they have changed or the priorites have changed.

Speaking of emotions.. I have got a fair share of guy friends.. and these are just friends.. before go ahead making any assumptions.... and sometimes I end up seeing their emotional side only when they are angry.. and that's when all the stories seem to come out. I mean guys its ok to be a bit venerable after all we all are human..You don't have to be always macho . Am sure we gals love to have a guy who is sometimes prone to tears.And am sure guys appreciate when the gals are straightforward and tell them what is bothering them than beating around the bush..
Then there is the never ending ready answers " Oh you wouldn't understand its a guy thing"... I know we gals have the say about " Oh its gal talk" but that's also bad. Am sure somethings are a bit embarrassing to discuss or tell it out in open.. But then you can always say.. I shall talk about it later.. Than always using the excuse Oh its a guy thing.. For heaven's sake grow up.. I think we all should.. in this aspect because end of the day its all about sharing and trying to understand the person whom you care about ..

I feel that if you genuinely like each other, enjoy being together, agree with how each other thinks and behaves, and share the same dreams in life, then loving feelings will never be too far away... ok I read this in a magazine.. lol.. but doesn't it sound true.. I think it does.. and makes perfect sense. Because the whole point is to let the other person know how you feel so they are not left wondering.. If you are busy and can't spend much time with that person then let them know , I am sure they would appreciate the fact that you are letting them know that you are thinking about them and thinking how this change would affect them as well.. Change can provide opportunities for growth and intimacy, but it can also be painful. It may mean adjusting to a new way of thinking or a new way of life. It may also mean letting go of things that have been familiar and safe... Isn't that what life is all about ???

Hope it makes sense .. or you can just go about as me blabbering as always ;)
now I will just wait for the comments .. :)

Tagged Again !!!!!!!!

2008-09-06T15:11:00.007+01:00

Well I have been tagged again.. by Pretha and Anu.. And since both of them tagged me on the same thing ( Phew that's me sighing in relief ! yaaaayyy ).

This is the first part of Anu's tag and this is Pretha's tag...

First one is Wonderful Quotes" tag. “The rules are a) jot down 5 of your favourite quotes from the various books read b) Tag 5 people at the end. If you don't have the books, then Google them. Well am really not tagging anyone.. hehe because i think pretty much everybody on my list has been tagged somehow or the other.. yes i can hear the sighs of relief now.. :)
I'm using a mix of the books i read , quotes from my favourite tv shows.. movies.. and random quotes which i have come across online :)

1. This is from my all time fav book.. Pride n Prejudice...

Lydia Bennet: Has anybody heard how Jane is this morning?
Mrs Bennet: Eh, Mr. Bingley sent a note over by his groom. She's much better. Such a happy idea of mine sending her off in the rain.
Mr Bennet: Yes, but to Jane must go all the credit for having caught the cold, my dear.

I love Mr Bennet for saying that.. lol.. amazing sense of humour.. ;) and well credit does go to Jane she managed to get the cold rittee..

2. This one is from Friends Sitcom..

Rachel: Wha... get married?
Ross: Well, yeah, I think we should get married!
Rachel: What? Because that's your answer to everything?

I can still picture Ross with a straight face saying this and Rachel having a look of disbelief on her face.. I sooo miss friends :(

3.This is a random quote which i found online.. I never knew who wrote it though..But this is something i really hold close to my heart..

I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken, and the one that could always brighten up your day even if she couldn't brighten her own.

4.Another that I came across online.. Its by Henri Nouwen

When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.

5. And this if from the movie Kal ho na ho.. SRK starrer.

Jiyo kush raho.. Kya patha Kal ho na ho..

Now the second part of Anu's tag..

Two questions in each category answer them and then tag your friends from the blog-o-sphere Leave a comment on their blog letting them know they have been tagged and you are all set.

Yesterday

-Your oldest memory?

-What were you doing 10 years ago?

Today

-Your first thought today morning

-If you built a time capsule today what would it contain?

Tomorrow

-This year

-What do you see yourself doing 14 years from now?

Am not tagging anybody.. But if anyone is interested in doing this tag.. ur most welcome. :)

Yesterday.

1.Oldest memory: My dad teaching me how to play football.. This was when I was 4-5 years old..he was showing me how to kick the ball and the next you know he was lying on the ground .. and my mom and i were just giggling away to gloryy.. :)

2. Ten years ago : I was in my tenth grade.. thinking how things will be in the future and what I would be.

Today

1.First thought today morning.. S*** I have got work..

2. If I build a time capsule today.. It would contain a book.. considering we are starting to get ebook readers am sure the books might go out soon ( hopefully not :( ) .. may be a copy of friends.. lol.. old nokia phone.. the one which resembles a walkies talkie.

Tomorrow

1. This year.. well looking forward for a trip in November..

2. Where do I see myself in 14 years time .. ( I wonder why its 14 years anyways... ) obviously married with kids.. ;) having a career.. in what will let u all know once i finish my studies ;)

Well that's my tags done.. yaaaayyyyy.. now let me wait for the comments ;)

Friends & Trust !!!!!!!!!!

2008-08-30T14:15:00.003+01:00

Why do people come into one's life..
I always believe there is some reason because of which they come to your life.. and once that's reason seize to exist.. then they fade away.. n then there are some people who you will find always around you .. to give that helping hand.. the shoulder to cry upon.. to give the tactful advice when you need it and stop you from making the fool of your self..

Now these people we call them as FRIENDS..

What does a friend mean.. the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem and affection along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis.They will also engage in mutually helping behaviour , such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviour. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.A friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there and will always, always care. A friend is a feeling of forever in the heart.

But then what happens if they come to harm..
And this harm is done unintentionally by the friend.. and there has been a small slip..
Because of this small slip the trust is lost.. how much ever you try to alter the things.. and try to convince the people involved that it was unintentionally.. it does never change..

Because the whole basis of the relationship was TRUST..
Its such a powerful word..

I had read somewhere.. that

“Trust is like a vase.. once it's broken, though you can fix it the vase will never be same again."

And I have come across situation's that seem so true.. The circumstances have lead it to be what they are in the present.. And one has to stop and wonder.. Why couldn't they just stop and think and realise that the person wouldn't have meant no harm.. As they say

It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it..

And what happens then..

This blog is dedicated to all the people who have come into my life.. and who had left their impressions on me.. and those who are not with me for what ever reasons.. and for those who left me because I hurt them in some reason or the other ( knowingly or the unknowingly ).. Sorry if i did hurt you..
Thank you all for coming into my life.. :)

Finally

You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can't forget. Those are your 'friends.

Hope all of us do take times to remember our friends.. as they are so very precious..

Memories !!!!!!!

2008-08-23T19:25:00.007+01:00

This is just random lines that I thought of.. Hope it makes sense to all..

Why does somethings never change..
How much ever you try..
It still remains..
You try your best..
To ignore.. to defy..
But at the end.. It still comes out.. for one to remind.. what this is all about..

Here you are again..
Back in my memory..
Why are you still here??
Invading my soul..

How the mind wanders.. to different alleys..
and it retrieves a memory to haunt my soul..
Of days of long past gone.. of things that did not last..
But Alas ,
The damage is done..
Memories can not be undone.....

Freedom = Independence ???

2008-08-18T21:56:00.006+01:00

Well we just finished our Independence day and had the celebrations in our community centre..And that has lead me to writing this blog.. The celebrations were really nice.. everybody came together and we all had a gala time.. with all the cultural events like dance.. songs.. speeches.. and then ending with a puja , bhajan and then with the dinner..

Sounds more like a get together isnt it..?
Well thats how i felt .... But then thats again another form of freedom.. Its the freedom of speech and expressing one self..

But then what does freedom or this whole independence mean??
Each person has a different view when it comes to freedom..And each one is so proud of their nation and the freedom one gets.. But is this something to be proud off??

Are we truly free and independent??

Freedom is not merely the opportunity to do as one pleases; neither is it merely the opportunity to choose between set alternatives. Freedom is, first of all, the chance to formulate the available choices, to argue over them -- and then, the opportunity to choose.

Everybody wants their freedom..
Freedom to say their opinion.. emotions..thoughts.. actions..
So does that mean its just a state of mind..or its the way in which you conducts things??
Or is it just the whole jazz ( if i can use the word ) of just hoisting the flag .. all the politicians making the speeches.. remembering all the freedom fighters and laying flowers on their grave..and the tv channels showing the struggles and the how much we have progressed in the past 6 decades..

Am sure all of us have had this conflict with our parents when we were growing up may be even now.... still feel that sometimes we are made to act differently than what we would have done or want to do.. This could be for different reasons.. Pleasing and listening to our parents.. Thinking what other people or the society would think about us if we do things differently..

So does that mean we are free...

Are we truly independent then.. ???
It is said that "Man is free at the moment he wishes to be..", But sometimes we are not that free that we are allowed to choose.. We are made to weigh the consequences of the decisions that we make..

I used to think that freedom is free.It seems the more I feel trapped, the more I desire freedom.My own limiting thoughts can become my own captor. Slowly, I began to learn that freedom is not free. It comes with a price. Sometimes at a heavy price. If you're willing to pay the price, you can be as free as you want to be.

What is the price you willing to pay???

The thing called LOVE !!!

2008-08-09T16:37:00.003+01:00

Well this is a poem that I had posted on Writer's blog ..

Thought would post it on my blog as well.. Its on the universal subject .. Love...

If love is nothing but illusion of the heart
so let me live in this dream forever
let me believe still
that you and me
is we
Don't wake me up
I love to dream like that
Don't wake me up
I want to sing my song
Till the end of love

6 Degree's of Separation

2008-08-04T21:41:00.006+01:00

I came across or know about this.. couple of years..

And there was this hype to know how one would be connected to some one and who all would or could you know..

Well this was actually proved and I read about this today on The Telegraph.
The link is here
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/2493444/Email-links-prove-six-degrees-of-separation.html

Here researchers have analysed this theory using our emails.

Am sure sometimes you must have ended up recieving the same kind of forwards couple of times.. ( or may be more ) and with in the span of days.. This is because the person you know is some how connected to the other people you know.. May be its not them directly but then they could be a friend of a friend.. or some one's spouse .. someone's cousin.. ( or any member of the family ) ... collegue..

Thats how we are separated from each other..

For example

The way one is connected or rather the degree of separation from one another is really amazing.. It actually comes to show us that we aren't that separated.. or the better word to be used strangers for one an another..

Well for you may know.. you actually might know George Bush.. ( I know its not that interesting but heyy u can go to the White House .. that would be so cool..

Or the other hand..
I wouldn't mind getting seperated with

Oh yess... cute ;) wonder what Victoria has to say..

So guys.. you never know.. who you are actually connected with..
Go check out..
The whole world is your oyster..

Forgiveness !!!!!!

2008-07-31T21:33:00.008+01:00

Everyone would be wondering ..

Why this sudden talk about forgiveness..

Don't know may be because am slowly letting my past fade away.. and forgiven certain instances or circumstances that has occurred in my life.. which i was prodding on for a long time. I thought it was about time that I let go off this excess baggage.. Well baggage.. it needn't be just our usual stuff that we carry.. but all those emotions .. that sometimes goes unexpressed.. and attended .. which we think that we shouldn't show it out .. as it might show how vulnerable we are and common who wants to look vulnerable.. ( I know its not a bad thing.. but well thats we all are )

Ok lets take an example..

I read this somewhere the other day....

How heavy is a glass of water?

Well that depends on how long you have to carry it . A minute is no problem and after an hour your arm might ache. But after 24 hours you'll probably be in bad shape!
In each instance the glass weighs exactly the same, but the longer you carry it the heavier it feels. It is the same with a grudge; it can get so heavy it stops you from living.

The same way , People will hurt you; that's the reality of sharing this planet with others. Sometimes it's intentional, other times they've no idea they upset you, far less broken your heart. Does that mean you should go around pretending nothings wrong? No, the first step is to confront your feelings and when the hurt is deep, it's even harder to forgive.When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.

But then over time you end up forgetting about it.. Sometimes out of sight is out of mind.

What had mattered so much and had caused so much hurt and pain is long forgotten.. Thats different that the hurt might have replaced by some new worries and hurt.. but that again that would also pass off in time..

It is said that Time is a great healer .. But the problem is no one knows how much time one takes to heal..

I am going to sign off this blog by this quote that I read

I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.

Interesting.. Isn't it .. :)
Can't wait for the comments now..

The Palace of Illusions !!!!!!!

2008-07-27T18:45:00.002+01:00

Well people who are a die hard book worms..

This is a must read book . Especially for ladies. It gives such a different indepth meaning of things.. and also on Guys ( I'm not joking there ).

For that matter even guys should read the book, because you would have never thought of it in this way and what way or view is that. Its a women's point of view.

This book is all about Mahabarath.
So whats so different about it.. considering all of us know the mahabarath.
Well just that we have seen it through the view of a girl .
To be precise through the eyes of Draupadi.

I always thought all these epics are sooo male dominated ( sorry guys ) but I do.
I mean its always like.. Oh so and so is such a great warrior.. such a righteous man.. blah blah blah.. and so on..
Very few actually remember the ladies who actually might have acted as the catalyst for the whole chain of events ( yess I know.. we are the root of all the problems.. hehe what to do we can't help it ;) ).

Anyways I always wanted to know how she felt when she was made to marry all the 5 brothers.. and also wanted to know how her feelings was towards Karna.. Hehe well I was so happy to get a view on it..

And thats when I realised couple of things...

Expectations are like hidden rocks on your paths.. All they do is trip you up..

Time is even and merciful..

And I found these to be so true..

For the later.. the time is the same.. just that the situations and the circumstances in which we are makes it seem so different and making it seem such a while and make it seem such a big thing that you forget that sometimes you have to let go off things , nothing actually stays for ever ..

And this is where the former comes into place.. Because we expect soo much from our lives.. our family.. friends.. work.. studies.. be it anything.. and when we fall short of it.. It causes us such a big downfall..Ok may be downfall is not the right word.. Guess you just feel so low about it..
That you actually forget that all you have to do is try harder.. but not expect much in return..

Concentrate on trying to achieve the goal.. without thinking what you would get in return.. How much ever the pain is and the price you have to pay for that..

But the end question is do you wanna pay that price..???

Standards or Double Standards ??????

2008-07-19T11:17:00.003+01:00

All of us have standards.. and now am not talking about the standards that we have in the schoo (just in case ppl thought of that ;) )l.. this is like the personality.. education.. the class.. and all tht stuff and much more.. And using these we judge people and we then say.. Oh he/she doesn't have any standards at all.. ????

Question is What is this Standard?? And how does one define what is the right standard??Considering each person has different ways of judging a person and telling about standards.. So what is the common standard?

This actually came into my mind when I was talking to one of my friends.
Chris is actually happily married and we were discussing about how different the two cultures are but then somewhere down the line the whole thing went on to parents and the upbringing.. So in some way its a kind of a continuation of my previous blog.. but with a bit of insights and thoughts ( as always ) ..

Well Chris has got 2 kids a boy and a girl.
And he wanted to know if I had any siblings.. which I don't and he was soo surprised that my dad actually let me come to the UK when he's still in India.. And am here.. all the miles apart from each other thinggyy.

And thats when he was like " I have double standards when it concerns my children. My son I would probably expect him to be on his own when he is 18" ( considering he's just turned 6 ) . He continued saying " If he wants to be on his own before that its fine by me.. but may be after he is 15 that would be better .. where as when it comes to my daughter ( who is just 3 ) I wouldn't expect her to move out.. and when it comes to dating and guys.. Hnnmm well I don't know.. Her happiness matters the most.. but then I don't want her to just randomly be with some guy she meets up.."And the girl is just 3..

I was just laughing my head out.. and he was like "I know I probably might sound like ur dad.. But then thats how I feel when it comes to my daughter. But when it comes to my son. I wouldn't mind him moving away.."

This is when I felt sad for guys.. and got thinkingg..YES GUYS you sometimes end up getting a raw deal ..

Its not that they are not been protected or cared for.. But I think since you are a guy you are sure to take care of urself ( Or its assumed that you can and you will take care of yourself.. But DO YOU??? ). You are also not supposed to cry or show out any sign's that makes you look that you are weak person. ( I think thats a bit inhuman .. all of us have emotions and feelings.. and its not good to supress them.. It would then be like a volcano waiting to explode .) And thats bad.

This is were I think the standards and double standards come into play.
Girls are not weak. But yes we do have to be cautious about a lot of things and I wont say no to all that. But that doesnt mean Guys shouldn't be cautious and shouldn't be careful as well. Coming to think of it .. Who actually thought of these thinks in the first place. That this is how it should be ? This is how girls will be and treated like and this is how guys should be and treated like??

I remember when I was in my native place.. and this was probably when I was 9-10 yr old and most of my cousins are guys and older than me and we were playin cricket or running around the house. Some Aunty came to visit us and saw me running about with the guys ( who are my cousins by the way ) and gave my mom a lecture about how to raise a girl child and how I shouldn't be running around and playing with them. Because am a girl and they are guys !!!!

This discrimination is what leads to people saying all sorts of things..
From being toooo cautious and tooo over protective about their kids. And they in turn asking for the so called freedom which they want.. Just trying to be a rebel for what their parents are saying... Making everyone miserable in the process..

Now coming back to my main topic.. Where is this standards?
Who sets them ??
And what are these standards??
Why is it so different for a guy and a girl ???
Aren't we all supposed to be equal????

Advice, Is it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2008-07-12T12:19:00.006+01:00

Ok I found this whole damn thing sooo hilarious when my mom was telling me about all this.. And I thought I should blog about this and find out what you all think of this and make out about it..

It all started off with my cousin sis and her husband and child coming down to the place where my parents are staying. My niece is joining medicine and her college or university ( I still haven't figured out how it is called ) is in the same city where my parents are put up right now.. So thats adding another doctor in the family now..

Anyways both my cousin and her hubby are teachers and since am going to do a dialogue play between her and her daughter, so lets just name them as Mr and Mrs X and my Niece as N.

So they reached Chennai , thats where my parents are residing right now.. and Mr and Mrs X came from my native place along with N.
They checked out the college N was going to study and finalised everything like paying the fee's, the hostel and gave the college my parents details to be her local guardian so that she could leave the hostel and stay with them during the weekend and so on so forth.

After that they went for shopping things for her that she might need and came home.
So later on in the night after dinner.. Mom , Mrs X and N were sitting and talking.. Mr X and dad were in deep discussion about Left with drawing support from the government and all that..

This was after my conversation with them all and N letting me know where she got her medicine seat and how excited she was about the whole thing and she showed me all her shopping that she did.. and was making plans for us to go about places when ever I got back home.

So the conversation ( it seems ) went on like this.

Mrs X : N , now you are a big girl ( note the amount of sweet talk which is been given ) and you should act like a big girl and be responisble and shouldnt trouble them ( them being my parents.. considering she's already been put in the hostel i dont get what trouble she will make my parents.. and my parents being my parents would have been more happy to have her at home everyday than the occasional weekends.. since there is nobody else apart from them .. anyways )

N : Yes mom. I know you have been telling me this for ages.. I know. Relax. ( Looking at my mom ) , Look Ammai ( means Aunty ) , Mom is always like this..

And my mom was like Common Mrs X , N is a smart girl . And am sure she 'll be fine . You all had a long day. Lets go off to sleep.

Now this conversation is in the bedroom now and continues as follows.

Mrs X : N are you asleep .

N : Not exactly , Why ?

Mrs X : See we cant always come and drop you and pick you up from here to come home . So you would have to travel alone in the train and sometimes in the buses. So you have to be very careful of how you behave.

N : Hnnnn ( Blank am sure.. poor thing didnt realise what was coming up for her )

Mrs X : You must cover yourself up all the time. Just wear Salwars and pin up your duppattaa( I just felt after hearing this that I was back into my Engg College with all its dumb rules ). Dont wear jeans . Incase if the lab's ask you to wear pants and stuff then wear it only for that classes , dont wear it outside . ( whatttt ?????? )

N : Whatt?

Mrs X : Yes and dont speak much to anybody in the class. Especially guys. They are not nice.( I wonder how did she know that her class guys are bad.. ). Dont go out with anybody even girls(??????) .Some of the students might be day scholars.. and they might invite you to their place. Don't go and if you are visiting your aunt you dont have to bring them along to their place.
My mom was like that's fine am used to having anila's friend's around.. So it shouldn't be a problem if N brings along her friends . It will be nice for her and it will be a good change as well.

Mrs X : Now another thing. If you are travelling make sure you travel in the ladies cupa in the train. If you don't get that , travel only on the upper berth so that no guys can touch you .

At this point , My mom actually thought my cousin was crazy and asked her to stop worrying and quit talkking to N like that. She shut up and then went off to sleep. Just to start it up again first thing in the morning.

My mom was soo astounded by the fact that Mrs X was actually talking like this and advicing her daughter this way. She was like you can be cautious and advice her..But this is ridiculous. Its like unnecessarily chaining and restricting your child and the child will definitly go in search of some freedom.

My mom is actually waiting to see how things will be when they come back next month to drop her off for her Medicine Studies. I hope all is well for N and no more advice session which I very much doubt.

I dont understand what is there so much to be worried about. She has already stayed away before for two years and that was away from her home in an hostel. And this time its no different. Then Why ? Is it because she's a big girl or is it because she's in a different state as from where her parents are residing right now ? Or is it that my cousin is just trying to be a bit protective about N by giving her so many rules to follow???
What do you think???

Single So ..... ???

2008-07-06T14:39:00.004+01:00

Ok the title of my blog itself is a give away to what the topic is all about. Am sure all the singles out there must have faced this problem.. and finally end up thinking.. Yes am Single .. So???

Sooner or later, it happens to all of us who are free agents. You're hanging out with members of the paired-up set, and you wind up on the receiving end of a possibly well-intentioned but most definitely annoying comment about your single status. Sure, you can just take it all in silence or end up giving snappy comments.. Well these comments could be snappy or rude or flattery depends on the person and how they wanna react though. Personally I would take it in silence.. If not I would end up being a bit sarcastic. Am writing about a particular instance that happened yesterday evening. My friends and I were invited for dinner yesterday. So we were a group of 8 out of which there were two couples and the rest were all us ladies. Of which two of us were the only singles ; One of them being me .

Well these couples who eventually ended up disussing ( or questioning would be the apt word ) about our single status and about marriage.. well lets name them Mr and Mrs M and Mr and Mrs N , its easier for reference. Now Mr and Mrs M got married 6 months back.. so basically they are newly weds ( Duhh! ) and very much on the honeymooning period.. they even went on to feed each other which I really found it cute and would like to know if they would continue doing that even after been married for 5-6 years.. where as Mr and Mrs N were happily married for more than 4 years and no kids yet.. They didn't feed each other but then Mrs N did keep a track of what Mr N ate and made sure he did eat healthy as Mr N was sick sometime back and they are due to travel soon , so she's being cautious about it. And plus this was also the first time that we all had met Mr M just because Mr M doesnt reside here.. or rather in the same continent.

Anyways.. the conversation finally lead to each couple telling how it was when they got married..and how the marriage was held and all the customs and rituals.. the honeymoon and blah blah blah.. Ok no offense.. But then its really not that I wouldn't mind listening to it.. Its just that finally it became to such an extent that I really had to sit and wonder was it another marriage prep talk [ which it was ] .... which I have been made to listen off late.And if so whyy???

Just because they think we are not married or dont have a bf right now.. that doesnt mean that our lives are boring ?? Each person has his/her own ideas when to settle down , how to and what they would think in their better halves. And they do it when they are ready which mostly coincides with meeting the right person . :) I would like to say some are lucky they do find that person sooner enough.. But some of us have to wait for a while.

Now these are some of the comments that I have received well not exactly yesterday some of them were given in the past.... and I have also mentioned how I thought about it at that time. Even though I just smiled at them politely without saying anything back. So that I didnt trigger out someother comment.

The First one wasn't too bad
"You're so lucky you're single—so much freedom, independence, etc..."
Am I ?? N does marriage mean's loosing your freedom ... hnnm well I didnt think so..

"There are so many great single people out there—maybe you're being too picky."
Oh yeah !! well I didn't think you were looking out for me.. N well thanks for letting me know that I'm picky . Especially when I hadn't thought about marriage and getting hitched up yet. But that doesnt mean you are allowed to match making. I don't get it why do married couples have to make sure all there single friends are also hooked up.. Does anybody know the logic behind that??

"It's hard being alone during the holidays/weekends, isn't it?" or "Ever get lonely ??"
Not exactly?? What is so hard of spending the time ?

" So how long is your studies..? That long.. Common get a life and get married ??" I have a life.. I mean.. because I'm not married that doesnt mean I dont have a life..
The shortened version of the above question would be " Still single , huh ?"

"Aww you are still single , Don't worry am sure you will find some one soon !" Yup some time or the other all of us do find ourselves a partner.. which are meant to be.. or not.. depends on time.

"You know, you should've stuck with ___ ( ur ex / or a close guy/ girl friend with whom you hang around), You guys were/are great together ."
Well you cant make them understand that you are over your ex..and the person in question is just a good friend of yours nor can you mention that you actually are planning the agony aunt for him in his love problems..

Well am sure all single people must have gone through these comments and then the prep talk. But the thing being. Single people are happy in their own world. We have our own commitments.. Be it work , to our families.. our siblings, cousins , friends , collegues. And this does take up our time . Yes sometimes we might miss out on the single companionship but that would be rare. I could vouch that 9/10 single people don't think much of marriage unless someone actually mentions that in a conversation.

This is to all the singles out there. You will have friends who would actually mention about marriage and relationships , babies, commitments all the time . But that doesn't mean you end up hooking up with the next person who comes along in your life. Should realise that we don't have to settle for something when you are not sure. Its not justifiable to that person and to you as well.

Till then lets enjoy the Independence of being single as our married couple friends would put it :)

2 Tagss... Manyy questions

2008-07-01T19:04:00.004+01:00

Thank you pretha and stephen for tagging me..
So am combining the 2 tags.. and changing the questions a bit.. to my convience.. :)
So here it goess...

I am : Anila [ For all my blogger friends who didnt know my complete name and just know me as ani.. hehe well that's my name.. and now you know.. :) ]

I am not : Anybody else.. lol.. [ really didnt know what else to write here.. no siblings.. so not much of misunderstandings there.. but I wish I had few lol.. grass is always green on the other side.. ]

I think : Do I ?? ... well sometimes I do.. and then I end up thinking quite a lot.. yup then I start to blabber.. hehe its not good.. really.

I want : Flight tickets to go home.. missing home.. [ any sponsor's lol ]

I feel : Hungryyy.. its 8pm.. hehe.. and am hungryy.. had a long day also u see..

I crave : right now.. food.. hnnmm some macroni and cheese.. or may be some pasta.. or best biryani.. lol..

I search : for lots of stuff.. some times i do get a bit forgetful.. understatement may be.. ;)

I wonder : why am i even writing all this.. would anybody read? or would they be bored.. considering this is another tag...

I regret : Not able to eat that last piece of chocolate chip cookie at work :(

I believe : In God, Fate , Karma

I hate : Lying.. and people not understanding you.. I even have had first hand experience how things go when you lie.. and sometime or the other truth does come out.. and oh boy isnt that bad..or when some one doesnt understand you and what you are trying to say to them.

[ After this is everything is in a series of numbers .. you will get the hang of it soon.. ]

If I had ONE Wish right now .... what would that be..? Well since am missing home.. would love to be at home.. in a blink of an eye..

The TWO people who have Inspired me recently ( in the last couple of months rather ).. : My Supervisor.. Zhihong.. She's this amazing mother hen supervisor I have got.. and Randy Paush the professor on whom I had written a blog earlier. And for those who haven't read that blog here it is.
http://world-ani.blogspot.com/2008/06/how-to-deal-with-life-well-just-listen.html

The THREE things I know I need to do soon.. : Well definitly eat.. as my stomach is grumbling.. Finish this blog.. And go out... [ err its saturday morning now .. so need to go to uni to finish my work :( .. and then I shall go out with my friends.. so yaaayyyy ]

The FOUR things without which I won't leave the house :
My Wallet ( duhh ) , Keys to the house , Keys to my lab and my Mobile .

The FIVE words I use quite frequently in an conversation :
HEH ( I giggle or chukle a lot ) , Never mind , Whatever , Nothing , Yeah Right !
[ well if you can think of any more words that I use often do let me know ]

The SIX movies I can keep watching again and again :
Manichitrazha ( its a malayalam movie )
Notting Hill
Nandanam ( its a malayalam movie again )
Dil Wale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge
Jab we met / Sillindru Oru Kadahal [ still debating which I like more ]
In Pursuit of Happyness

The SEVEN Songs which I can relate to in my life.. ( they are not in any order .. writing them as I remember the songs )

Ishq Bina - Taal Movie [ well do love all the songs from that movie though ]
Subah Subah - Movie I See you
NewYork Nagaram - Movie Sillindru Oru Kadhal [ its a tamil movie ]
Ambalapuzhe Unni - Movie Adwaitham [ its a mallu movie ]
Please Forgive Me - Bryan Adams
Right Here waiting for you - Richard Marx
When you say Nothing at all - Ronan Keating

So here I end this tag..
Who all should do this tag.. well everybody who wants to do..
P:S : Anish I insist you definitly do the tag ;)

I wish ....

2008-06-25T14:28:00.005+01:00

Listening to the rain on my sunshade window at univ......Ok let me explain the layout of this room...well this window in question which is practically the only window that one can see in this little room....that to because its in the ceiling... Rest of them is camoflaged by cupboards and book shelves.. And this room my friend's have named it as Ani's Dungeon.. because thats where you will find me.. crouched up on some books or staring blankly at the computer thinking if I stare long enough may be the software would decide to work lol.. which btw it never does..... [ And right now its bright and shining.. Considering that I started to write this couple of days back.... ]

Anyways.. listening to the rain drops falling on the window.. all I could think of that time is my native place.. and how similar the weather was.. well atleast in terms of the rain rather.. Considering Kerala is always known for its rainy season.. or the occasional showers in the summer.. the coconuts.. banana's .. the back waters.. well could go on..
And this is another reason why am feeling home sick now..

Considering soh is leaving for India this weekend.. and am planning trips for my friend's -Danilo and Flavia to visit India for the first time in their life.. [ They are Brazilian's so they are in for a lotttt of fun , courtesy me ;) ]...
And all this had lead me to be home sick..

So now I am preparing a list of what I should do when I go to India... And hence the blog I wish...
Well technically I wish for lots of things.. Trying to meet my parents and be with them.. Hnmm but then who wouldn't that what would be the first thing one would think of if he/she is missing home.. Anyways here goes...

1. I wish.. to eat a lottt.. hehe mom's cooking obviouslyy.... Miss her food now.. :(( then some dhaba.. saravana bhavan.. hehe i know.. it happens..
And since its raining.. I will also go about in talking about the onion bhajji and cutlets.. this with a cup of tea or coffeee.. in the rain.. hnnmm just amazing..

2. Watch as much as Indian Movies as possible.. Right now my only Indian movie watching is the websites online.. be it good quality or not.. Thats the only choice.. Coz very rarely you get a good Indian movies at the theatre's unless you are planning to go visit a near by city.. Well that's another waste of money..

3. Hang around Spencer's or Citi Centre till late in the nite.. this is something that I reallyy reallyy missinggg a lotttttt.. Goshh when I first came here I was in for such a big shock.. All the shops everything was closed by 5pm.. The only place that's open 24 hrs is Tesco..

4. Visit some new places.. Like a proper tourist.. lol.. which never works.. but will try though.. Seriously when I was planning out the trip for my friend's I realised there is sooo much of places that I haven't even heard off or seen.. So yup.. Should plan something and take a nice long break..

5. Shop , Shop , Shop.. hehe well really some things you just cant replace.... Atleast to listen to all the hustle and bustle off the place.. hehe you know the honking.. the crowd.. the chatter.. the traffic all the time.. street vendors.. Yup I do miss that..

6. Visit a Temple.. Ok seriously am not that religious.. ok may be I am .. but anyways the only proper temple that I have visited is when I went down to London.. And when I mentioned proper.. that means there are few Hindu community centre's.. which conduct puja and all every weekend .. But then they dont have the proper Temple ambience..

7 . Meet all my friends.. Especially the people who I got in touch like after ages..[ Some of them I haven't met since we all left school ok ppl stop calculating my age now.. its bad to count a girl's age ;) ]

8. Go to Hyderabad.. and see my school and my school teachers.. That should be fun :).. Try to meet my old class mates.. some of them who are already married or in the process of getting engaged.. Well few of them already got kids as well.. so I get to meet their better halves and their kids as well.. That should be fun.. Seeing how much people would have changed..
Ahhhh old memories.. [ nope not planning to do that with my engg college.. unless I have company .. pretha u listening ;) ]

This all apart from trying to go meet up relatives and having other family obligations :)
Looks like I have got my plans ready for when I go back to India.. Yaaaayyy !!!!

Oh well.. Let me get back to staring at the computer..
So will catch you all later... Byeee

Hum-Tum.... N the war continues

2008-06-22T20:20:00.004+01:00

Ok this blog is inspired by the Movie Hum Tum .. which is so very obvious considering the title is that.. and also from blogs from my close friends.. Pretha's No peanuts for me please.. and Anish's Men and Women 1 and 2.

Now this has always been a debate topic.. and such a lovely topic to write about. One can always go on and on.. and interpret in so many different ways. But then one thing is for sure... That is with out Hum aur Tum.. there wouldn't be any relationships.. Be it friendship.. family.. anything..

Basically its how we define things.. And that's where the problem arises. Each of us have different point of view. And that again differs if you are guy or a girl.

Now if you read both their blogs.. You actually get to see two sides of the coin...

And that is what am trying to achieve by my blog.

Why do guys flirt.. OK am not pin pointing the guys now saying that they flirt more.. Its more like they flirt even if the girl tells nope nothing is going to happen.. and we are just friends.. And guys sometimes we don't give this excuse as an excuse.. we really would like to be friends..
Yes you can say.. that it is a good ice breaker to get to know the person.. But then there are few girls.. who might not be inclined towards that.. So the approach should be different and that's what goes wrong with the guys.. The approach most of the time is same..

And that might not be appreciated.... Well not alwayss..

Now girls.. we have this problem .. Thinking guys are not emotional.. Sometimes you end up getting a partner who doesn't know how to express his feelings.. [ Guy's that's such a bad thing to do because we girls do need that telling or reassurance ].. Need to get around that and make them comfortable to opening up and talk things out..

End of the day it is not that you flirted too much.. you looked at another girl/guy when you are in a relationship... Looking has never caused problems.. Its when you step out from your boundaries of that relationship.. That's when problem arises.. When you don't spend much time and don't understand what the other person wants and you are so buried in your work .. That you don't realise that you are moving away from the person .. the very person for whom you are trying to make things better..

And after all this.. there is no turning back..
Each boundaries defines each relationships.. And each relationships are special.. Some carry on for ever and stand the test of time.. till death does than apart..
Others breaks away over time... Trust and Faith is most important..

End of the day.. Guys will continue to flirt around.. well more than girls.. [ yup am being biased ;) ].. And guys will blame girls for breaking their hearts and vice versa..
But the truth of the fact remains that..
They can't exist without each other... They need the other person.. to make them complete..

And thus the war will continue

P:S : Do watch the movie its awesome.. even though I have watched it n times.. can't get enough of it.. or even Harry met Sally.. that would also serve the purpose :)

I have been Taggedd !!!!

2008-06-19T11:11:00.004+01:00

Thanks Anu for tagging me..
Like I said this is a very big introspection of my life.. Phewww

6 Whatever's about me .

1. I love food.. Ok that's the understatement . Foodoholic is more apt word I guess.. But in a very good way.. I don't over eat to have a weight problem or any other disorder.. Its just that I love good food and I enjoy eating food and trying out new food..
2. I believe in Fate and Karma . I always think that.. Things happen for a reason.. and there is always this thing which is looking on us and making things to happen.. YES I know its God but then am not a person who has taken to the rituals and temple [ well atleast not as much as my parents want me to ] but I have my faith in them..
3. I love books.. You can always find me couched up on a sofa or my bed reading.. I prefer that to going out.. And thats a problem.. Its one of my ways of unwinding after a long day..
4. I am scared of heights.. Oh yes.. Flying to UK well it was a bit of a nightmare.. I have travelled before ..But not for 9hrs straight.. So I think I'm getting over that fear of heights.. Luckyy ME !!!! ... and I'm keeping my fingers crossed..
5. I am a bit short tempered .. [ if you didnt realise it.. please read my previous blogs and u would realise that ]
6. I like music.. Preferably from soft rock, pop to our Bollywood , Tamil /Telugu and my native mallu industry.. So depends on my mood the music would also differ and sometimes does the language i listen to.

5 Things I miss in my Life right now ..

1.I miss my parents.. especially the constant banter of my mom and the random fights that I have with her .
2. I miss the proper Indian Food. All the dosa , idly , vada , sambhar , pav bhaji , chole bhatura .. Even though we do cook and soh's mom.. Pratima Aunty is an amazing cook. Guess the ingredients are from here so the taste variess from what it is back home..
3.Hanging around with friends.. At Spencer's or City Centre or Ascendas. Which most of the time I have visited only after 4 pm in the evening..But here in Dundee .... Everything closes down by 5pm unless its a Thursday..
4.I sometimes miss the work life.. Even though I still do keep in touch with most of collegues who have become my close friends over the years.. I still miss them..
5.I miss my school life.. Coz after that I haven't met everyone together or have hanged around as we used to when we were in school.. All the carefree life.. Just worrying about finishing homework and exams..

10Things I wanna Achieve in a Decade .

1. Finish my PhD .. And get a job in the research side..and later on move to academic side..
2. Travel around and try to see all the seven wonder's of the world.. Well have seen the Taj Mahal but then wouldn't mind seeing it again..
3.Learn to Swim.. Considering.. Soh and Drew have taken up the task of tutoring me at the beach I should be able to learn it quite soon.. But still its on my list for a long time now...So dont know lets see how it goes..N then I can try out different types of water sports..
4. Learn How to Drive.. Yup I don't know how to drive.. and I realised how essential it is .. Especially in this Country..
5.Try to learn new languages..Have started of with Chinese.. Do know a bit French [ learnt it in my 11th n 12th but guess that doesn't count ]
6.Try to build a house near a river or lake.. And make sure my parents can be settled there.. Y Lake or River.. well gives you plenty of fish.. And mom loves it.. And The view is just amazing.. So dad can just have his evening walks along there.. PerFect !!! :)
7.My mom's dream.. hehe Seeing me married and having kids.. Lol considering most of my friends are tying knots or have tied the knots.. So guess I would take the plunge soon.
8. Listen to an Opera or Musical Show..
9. Open a restuarant or a resort .. Considering how much I love food..and love to relax.. That shouldn't come as a surprise..
10. To go on a long cruise... hnnmm

The Book Tag
**Pick up the nearest book.Open to page 123.Find the fifth sentence.Post the next three sentences.

Ok Got this ecopy of "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" on my desktop..

""one of the main sources of discontent."
"Really".
"Yes, A poor diet has a pronounced effect on your life. It drains .. "

Tag Five people

Alex - http://philososphyofalex.blogspot.com/
Shaji- http://awesomesprings.blogspot.com/
man in the painting- http://keyboardsculpturer.blogspot.com/
pretha- http://beetlejuice357.blogspot.com/
rajesh- http://justrajesh.blogspot.com/

Anybody else wanna tag along.. please do.. that was fun..

Devil Wears Prada !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2008-06-15T13:50:00.003+01:00

Ok to begin with does The Devil care with what he/she is working?? May be not..

Since girls are more into Fashion and trends.... sorry about the phun .. but not many guys I know really care about FASHION.. How they "Look"... Yes.. but they wouldn't care about what they are wearingg.. or which brand it is.... And most men actuallyy dread shopping... It will be like Whatttttt ??? Shopping..? What happened to your Gf's??

Ask any girl about CK , Nina Rucci , Gucci , Chanel , Burberry , Disel , Christian Dior to name a few.. And she would be dying to own something or the other from these Big names of the industry.. And secretlyy wishing something happens and it just falls on to her lap..

Well from time to time we do end up thinking [ including guys.. am sure there might some Rayban Glasses.. or some Hever watch you are ogling at...].. Goshh how would it be if I wear something like this.. or could look like that.. or own that bag/watch.. or that pair of amazing glasses...

Hnmm yessss... Am sure you have thought about it..

For girls.. It just acts as an extended part of our sexuality.. It kind of defines us how we want to feel about ourself ... well may be not all the time that is applicable.. hehe some off us actually just wear clothes because we have to wear them.. ok ok.. was being a bit cheesyy there..
Am sure all of you must have had dayss when you couldn't be bothered the way you looked.. Didn't care about the world and went ahead and did what you felt the best was... I hope everybody is still thinking about appearances right now.. If not please do get back to thatt...

Guyss.. Questiong for you...
Why do you think a girl goes of for shopping as a best way of therapy?? Especially when she's upset or happyy.. ;)
Because we need that moral boost .. We need to make ourself feel that
Yes we are worth something.. incase if its our happiness then.... It will be we are worth something..... It just a make feel good factor....both ways.... Good or bad... Technically its just another way of pampering ourselves....

So now back to our topic...
Devil wears Prada... hnnmm well even the Devil need's to feel good rite ;)

How to Deal with life...? Well Just Listen ......

2008-06-12T19:59:00.009+01:00

Well today was one of those days.. where I felt like...
Everything in my life is just going wrong..
Things are not happening the way I want them to happen .. No matter how much I try...

Even small things ended up making me feell...

Why is this happening to me??? What have I done to get this.. [ rather deserve this kind of thing .. ]

And then something happened..

Well I have recently joined Indi blogger [ considering that one of my friend.. he is actually in the core team who is behind the success of Indi Blogger.... and I should have been signed in before.... well it took me about 3 attempts to get myself registered.. hehe was wondering if my blog wasn't good enough for these guys..... anyways he found out that they had a bug considering i was not in any of the Indian cities.. duhhh.... when you register need to mention the city you are residing and all that.... and the system didnt recognise it.. which is not surprising.... ]

Anyways.. I found this really good blog.. It was titled Anonymously yours....

Hnmmm intriguing title for the blog [ well thats how they should be ...] Not like mine.. Considering I was listening to Dido's White Flag song when I was registering myself.. so hence the name.. I could change it.. But oh well.. its pretty much stuck now..
Well anyways the name was so intriguing and thats exactly why I decided to check out the blog.. And boy didn't I have a shock.. [ well more like the good shock .. ]

Felt more like i was getting a perspective in line about the way I was looking and seeing how my life wass......

This was a video that she had loaded along with a very funny story about heaven and hell.. which you could read there.. Anyways this video...

Was it goodd or whatt...... The best ever ... I must say.. considering the only longest video that i ever see are movies... this wasss worth itt... [ guys this is about 1 hr and 16 mins and some secondsss..... so please make the time to sit that longg.... thats why its called a lecture... Duh!!! ]

Anyways...
This is about a last lecture given by a Professor .
Randy Pausch Last Lecture: Achieving Your Childhood Dreams : Carnegie Mellon University .Prof Pausch is suffering from Metastatic Pancreatic Cancer which has spread to his liver and spleen.

He had delivered his last lecture on Sept 18 2007 and he starts off by saying ..
"What wisdom would you try to impart to the world if you knew it was your last chance?"

And that actually blew me away.. N that got me thinking.. Here is this guy who is fighting cancer and he knows he has to say good bye to his family and friends.. and what he's been doing and enjoyed doing.. And having the fun.. [ yes he has got the pain... I wont deny that its not painful facing such a big fact of one's life.. and just wishing.. Had I got more time.. ]

And here was sitting and actually cribbing about having such a bad day...

I have actually quoted some of it what he has mentioned..
well these were really something that I could relate to todayy.. And thats how this whole blog came about...

1.Experience is what you got.. when you didn't get what you wanted....
It made perfect sense.... you try to get something... and sometimes you fail.... But the experience you gain out of it... It so tremendous... Its something you will have with you always and that you can look back on... Remember Failures are stepping stones to success...

2.Wait long enough and people will always [ or actually ] surprise You..... If you are ANGRY AND PISSED OFF that means that you havent still given them enough time..... To surprise You.
Another thing that made sense... Because you are angry because that person didn't meet your expectations... Its not THEIR expectations.. Its YOUR expectation that they haven't met. When we actually calm down and think about it in a rational mind.. Things actually end up to make sense..

And Finally what we need to do is ....

Just Listen .....

Sunshine...... !!!!!!!!!!!

2008-06-11T11:02:00.005+01:00

If anybody has travelled to the UK then they would agree with me when I say..

Weather is something you can never ever predict ... or get used to.. because you don't know when it would change..

Coz for all you may know.. It will be a bright sunny morning.. and by the noon.. it would get cloudy and then it would start to rain.. and again by the evening.. it would just clear up.... and you wouldn't even have any clue that it was raining earlier..... [ and you can get to see the sun set if you are lucky that is ..... and btw did i mention about the fog where practically you can't see anything... the snow.... and the hailstones..... hehe ]

And for the past couple of days.. We have been blessed with so much sun shine that I really would love to go out and soak myself in the sun as much as possible . And now we get to see the sun for even longer period now.. as Day's are longer now.. So its bright and sunny till about 7-8 pm in the evening when it starts to dusk..... so basically you do have sunlight till about 11 - 11:30 pm

Its such a beautiful thing.. the all glorious sun.. shining brightly..
People walking about in proper summer clothes..
And since its also a proper holiday time as well as most of the schools and university have closed for vacation..

This just feelsss ... Hnmmm Goodddd !!!

May be have some picnic's or barbeque organised with friends.....
Lay on the beach.. make sand castle.. get a tan.. [ hehe as if i don't have tan of my own.. well its natural you see.. ;) ]

Now had I been in India this time of the year.. I would have been roasted..
Considering the summer this year has been relatively been bad .. [ or that's what I have been told by family and friends there ... ]

So in some ways.. [ or more ways.. ] am happy to be here..

Just that.. rite now with all the glorious sun outside.. I'm stuck at the univ which is sitting inside and doing my research work [ which btw is not looking so great.. ]
Oh welll.. back to workk now.... :(

Topics that I would like to write about !!!!!!!!!!!!!

2008-06-10T11:40:00.003+01:00

Well recently I have been having a writer's block.. or rather having a big block when it came to writing down about something... be it anything..

I had so many idea's but then.. didnt know where to start.. or what to write about ?

Then I came about with the idea ( well i don't know if it was brilliant thing but at that time it did sound very brilliant .. ) Anyways.. why don't list it down.. and make that as a blog.. and then later on when I have a block .. err a writer's block rather.. just write about them..

Seem's fair .. Isn't it?

So here is the list of things I could think off..

1. Facebook / Orkut / Bebo / Wayn ( still haven't figured out much of it ) /Tagged [ sorry guys who ever has tagged me or added me on Wayn .. I just have had enough of this socialising websites .. hehe too hard to keep track of them.. ]

2. What is your favorite sports??

3. My Ideal job ....

4. Mobile phones [ for few of my friends.. who are for ever busyyyy and never reply back for my texts or answer back to my callss... I seriously think.. they should throw it out of the windows.. but do let me know when.. because some of their mobiles are reallyyy cool.. and I wouldn't mind using them.. ;) ]

5. Travelling.. [ I love to travel and visit new places.. since been here in the UK for quite a while planning to do a blog on the places that I have been able to visit and put up the pictures ]

6. My favourite subject at school ??

7. How I spend money ?? [ I think everybody should write about this topic .. and am sure we shall come up with some many different things that we do.. and don't even realise that we are doing it ... ]

8. My Favourite place ...

9. How i unwind ???

10.If I had super power.. [ Guess I'm being inspired by H.E.R.O.E.S now.. thats such a cooollllll TV series.. so what would I like to be.. ???
Hnmm bend time ..??
Or have healing powers.. ??
Fly ??? ( May be.. )
Multiple Personalities ???
Or have it all ... hnnmmm

11. Is Religion important or faith??

12.My ( unexpected ) Mentor ...

13.My worst Nightmare... [ Oh my godddd ! well I know I do sound like Janice from Friends.. but reallyyy.. pheww.. all of us have got our night mares..well considering night mares are worse.. but then you will have the worst from the lot as well.. anyways wont say it now.. then I won't have anything for my blog ;) ]

14.My first Crush ..

15. My first heart break..

16.Why I believe in Luck ??? [ things always happen for a reason.. ]

17.Friends I can't wait to meett..

18. Just when I think I'm done...

19 . Shaking things up...

20. Chaos ..

Hmmm!!!!!!
Think thats a good work done for today... hehe I meant about my blog.. considering I have a writer's blog.. well I hope I do write about all this..

What is....... ???

2008-05-26T19:30:00.001+01:00

How do you know.....

That a person means a lot to you.. and you need the person all the time.... may be for ever in your life ...

How do you know this.... ??? Let's see....

May be its just their presence.. that confidence that they give you when they are there .... that removes all the doubts that you have in your mind.. and they just make you feel everything is alright.... and all is well...

Or may be its their talks.... can be the dumbest things you might ever talk about.... just the usual blabbering ..... that need to tell it out to that person... because you know that the person would understand...

Or is it the undivided attention...that they give you.. make you feel special.. and which could be very rare... and when they do... feels like magic is in the air....

Or is the fights.... that you have with them that makes you feel like.. rite i'm not going to talk to them ever again.. but then deep with in you know that he/she was rite.. and what they said does actually make perfect sense......

Or is it the long walks ( or the drives) ..... with that person just so that you can relax and take your mind of things.... may be a walk to the beach.... even loosing your way back home from a shop..... because you were so engrossed talking and arguing..... that you end up realising you have lost the way to your own house..... because you were so engrossed talking to them.....

Or is it just the time spent together with them...

The trust you have....

The care that they show......

and then you realise.. Yes .. I need the person for ever in my life....

Because my friend by now you are in L.O.V.E with that person....

Perfect ;)

Aaja Nachle

2008-05-22T15:58:00.001+01:00

Well ppl who have read my previous blog..

This is like a continuation of that blog..

Ok the next day was my D-day for the event which so happens to be titled as "Aaja Nachle " - Come along and dance. ( thanks to moiz who suggested it ) . I think the title is really groovyyy and nice.. Brings out the whole esscense of the show of enjoy.. be merry.. i do sound like robin hood and his men..

Well anyways.. after all my outburst the previous evening. I didn't go to the practice session that was organised in the morning.

1. I had invigilation of exams that day..oh yes i do invigilate ( and if you guys are wondering how me.. and invigilate.. err well even i don't have an answer for that yet.. )

2. I didnt feel like it as well.. lol but the first excuse is better :)

Anyways.. so met soh, moiz , roh , deepa , aj n preethi auntie at the chaplaincy for lunch. And discussed what to do for the evening. And had everything arranged for the evening.

And then it was 5 pm. we all managed to reach.. I was running late. As i got caught by wanji and then by Esther. But managed to get away from them and off I went to see what the evening had instore for me.

So came home.. got refreshed .. left the place.. then realised i had forgotten my keys .. so came back in.. and banged my flat door.. n no one opened up.. so called one of my flat mates to come open the door.. which detained me some more time trying to explain to her the situation and then reminding her to come for the event.. and then rushing back to the union... phewww.. during which time i had got couple miss calls from moiz and sohini asking where i was considering i stay quite close to the union.. rather the university where the union is to begin with..

Anyways.. door's were open by 6pm.. and since its a proper South East Asian Event.. well we would obviously start fashionably late.. ( has such a nice ring to it isnt it .. lol ) and so we did..

Started off with a dance.. where i was the guy ( considering we couldn't get enough guys to dance.. i don't know whyyy ) and then finally ended up being the girl.. and so didnt know the steps.. and thus ended up performing a mix of girl and guy's step..

The other program's continued without a hitch.. with couple of us still forgetting steps.. The fashion show was great.. as ppl just had to walk and show off their costumes and do the walk thing.. so that was nice..

And then there was this problem of the food.. lol no one knew when it arrived and we all were waiting for it.. Then realised it must be outside as you need a student id or an invitation to come inside.. so all of us rushed to the different entrances and guess what I found it..

And there I was carrying these huge boxes wearing the saree and walking in heel's and all the gorra's ( if I may say so .. ) were just looking at me wondering " What is she trying to do.. ? " .. which by then even I was wondering.. By then soh and couple of our Asian guys saw me and helped with getting the food in.. and the food was served..

And must say was afraid if we were going to have enough for all.. but we did.. And after all this.. it was party time.. with the Dhol player - Gurjeet who came from glasgow.. ( thanks to moiz who organised that )... And Haroon the DJ it was a nice partyy nite...

Hurrayyyyy it was a blast... :)
So the disaster turned out well .. must say :)

D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R. was it ??? or wasn't it???

2008-05-14T22:17:00.001+01:00

OK first come first.. How does one know that .. Oh my god! This is a disaster..!!!!!
(Where is the nearest exit so that I run away before I can blow my top.. which I didn't get a chance to do though.. err run away I mean..)

Well so let's just replay my day today..

And oh la la !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What do you have ? A proper recipe of D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R ... yummmmyyyy ;)

Trust me it WAS A COMPLETE D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R.. nor was my temper helping me out in anyways.. Gosh I didn't I could be fuming so badly.. well I wasn't atleast by the end of the day.. thanks to couple of songs and raps.. ( by which time I pretty much had vented out all my inner emotions or rather the venting part ) .

The problem was it got targeted to everybody and anybody.. Some of whom actually didn't need my emotional outburst.. and A few who did and then just had to make it difficult for the rest of us who were there...

Now how to begin the disaster..

Nothing much just gather a bunch of people..
Ask them to perform..

More important try to tell them a time frame when to come..to practice.. So that they don't turn up at all .. which is like a good 1 and 1/2 week before the D- Day ( which by the way is tomo and am just praying to all my gods.. and all other gods as well.. just to see there is no hick ups in it .. so that's a blog for tomm.. or the next day.. )

Anyways.. apart from all this.. organise the posters.. the tickets.. the sponsors for the food.. the DJ and the music for the nite.. The halls for the booking.. Keep a track of the costumes who is wearing what.. and more important who all is doing what all..

And apart from all this.. Also do give enough time for your studies and meet your own deadlines like exams.. paper submission.... we even went off not eating for couple of afternoon as ppl ended up coming at different timings...not that anyone really cared....

And what do my friends and me gain out of organising all this.. Especially when things are not going as you planned.. And you know there is so much you could have done.. But then.. You always have bunch of critics .. who have to make it difficult for you.. Am not saying critics are bad.. Criticism is good if its a healthy criticism it shouldn't be.. insulting in any way especially when you don't a single thing of what is happening over there.. and therefore to an extent you would take it. Even the critic has to be good one who has got some moral , who knows what he/she is talking about ... not a person who just questions everything that you do?

The problem is......Nobody will give there penny worth of thoughts in the beginning but would do when things are pretty much on the road.. and almost about to be like you know "Touch down" state and then they would be like..
"Oh by the way.. this is what we think...So shall we make the change..
I mean Hellooooo.. Don't you think its a bit too late for making change..

All this said and done..I vented my emotions.. and calmed myself down.. and then continued with the stuff..
And guess what they were good.. They were actually good.
So I really don't mind if they H.A.T.E me.. But that actually got my job done..

And with few co ordination from my roomies to be.. who kind of did the balancing act ( or should say were the opposite of my venting emotions ) and made ppl understand what was happening.. And made them listen and do what was supposed to be done..
Also considering the fact that today was the first time in the past couple of weeks.. We had everyone together for practice. The first time..

So end of it all..
Was my venting.. Justified? To get them to perform as they did.. and would it be brilliant tomo??

Guess I'll know that tomo..

How Do You Cope With The Sorrow and Pain ??

2008-05-04T21:21:00.001+01:00

I thought I'll share this article that I came across recently.. Hope it makes sense..

Why is it that relationships can bring about two totally different types of emotions?

Its like a rollercoaster ride.. when the relationship is going well, you are on top of the world, feeling absolutely ecstatic. You are in love. And the other side, when the relationship ends, your heart begins to bleed, it screams out a cry, making some days unbearable to even get out of bed. You are heartbroken. It's the same relationship but you still can get different outcomes depending on the two little hearts involved.

Everything around you seems to be in rainbow colours when you first fall in love. Your eyes sparkle and you seem to laugh and giggle a lot at silly things. All that you do seems to go right and you feel you're invincible. Your heart beats faster and you can't hide your excitement every time you get a text from him. The only thing on your mind is when you can see her again. Romantic songs go through your head and you even hum to yourself a love song as you wake up in the morning. You skip through the streets to work and feel like dancing in your office. How wonderful life is when you're in love.

It's easy when it's going great but how do you cope when your relationship ends?

All of a sudden the sky turns grey, there's a chill in the air, your whole body feels so heavy to carry, and you don't even know where you are at times. It's painful to think about your loved one but you can't stop thinking about her. You want to stop thinking about him but every other person you see walking through the street reminds you of him. The memories flood through your mind and you can even hear her voice and her laughter, see her smile, be reminded of her smell, and her warmth… You want to reach out and tell him how much you love him but your words won't come out because you know it's not going to change his heart. You spend all day thinking about her, you lie in your bed yearning for her cuddle, and you wake up in the morning wondering how you're going to live through another day without her. Why is it that we feel so much sorrow and pain… Why does love have to hurt so much?

The sorrow and pain is unbearable and it's so hard to cope with. You can't even tell your friends because they just won't understand how much your love meant to you. Your eyes weld up in tears and you can't help wanting so much for your love to come back. How did it all go wrong? What really happened? What did I do? Why me? Why now? Why me? Why me? Please stop this sorrow and pain and let me be happy again.

Marriage's...

2008-04-29T13:56:00.001+01:00

Off late the most talked about topic for most of my friends and me is MARRIAGE.Either some cousin is getting married.. or a best friend.. either you have decided to push the whole thing off by couple of years..or remain a spinster... or its just that you are trying to find a suitable match for yourself and finding a that to be very hard..

I remember this conversation in my flat.. we ( i.e Aigerim and me) made wanji literally plan the whole of her wedding.From the location of her wedding in kenya to the way she's getting dressed.. thrashed if it would be a church wedding.. hnnm what kind of dress would she wear.. and which would be the best location according to their customs and would it be so far off for both the bride and groom side.. which month of the year should it be.. oh my gosh.. hehe all of us just went on and on .. well obviously we took turns in planning our own weddings..
well considering this all started with a one single topic of trying to know more about each other's custom which lasted through quite a few cups of coffee's.. hot chocolate.. and thus led to the final planning.. and aigerim yawninggg .. so that was the end.. err atleast for the time being. ( i think )

Well marriage is something that a girl and guy do errr we are in the time of civil partnerships.. so since most of my friends are straight.. i shall just stick to the whole concept of guy marrying a girl.. than the same sex.. so yeah.. so when the girl and guy decide that yes we would be compatible enough for the rest of our life.. so lets just get married.. this is obviously out of L.O.V.E for the other person. This what is termed as The Love Marriage... Most of my friends recently are falling in this gener.. So things are changing..

Now then there is something called the Arranged Marriage.. which most of my friends here in dundee.. really find it hard to understand.. and has lead to such numerous conversations .. that i have stopped keeping a count. Times are changing though.. But for the arranged marriage to just go away completely welll.. that sure'll take a while. Now what is this arranged marriage.. well its simple.. here a member from your family is introduced to the groom's family.. they check each other's background.. etc etc.. and there is this small thing called horoscopes ( okkk soh stop laughing).. yeah.. where they check with the time u were born.. the d.o.b and see if thats also compatible with ur would be's... obviously you would have to be from the same caste and religion.. which goes without saying.. ( considering there is so many different caste's and religion in India.. and so many different languages as well.. shouldn't be surprised.)
Now if all this is cleared.. then you are allowed to meet the guy . And then you like the person.. ( which most of them time you get only one chance to speak ) and say if you liked the person or not.. Sometimes you might just not get the chance to choosee ( which is very rare now) also.. depends.. Err yeah no dates before things are fixed.. may be the occasional phone coversations.. any dates is after the alliance is fixed.... yeah so once things are fixed you could meet up/ call up.. but yeah other wise.. Can't see any of that happening.

Now this trend is changing... Considering most of my friends.. have come under the L.O.V.E marriage gener.. and parents are becoming more open minded though.. ( Err still trying to figure out which one my parents fall in though.. ).. anyways.. this is about the initial hassle.. will write about the different customs and rituals later.. hehe

Time n Tide wait for none !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2008-04-29T10:03:00.001+01:00

Well it has taken me a good couple of months to come back to writing on my blog.. ( considering I have quite a few in my drafts stage which I have still not touched ).

During this time.. my life has changed drastically ..lol.. not that drastically also when I come to think of it.Considering how restless I could get or.. how anxious about what is going to happen next.Now things have started to make more sense and you start to appreciate them more. Especially what you have. That is the problem with us. Always wanting to have more.Not thinking of how much we have and if it actually is making us happy, but just this thought that wish I had more and considering no one has a clue what more is.. Is it some more money.. more time.. more friends.. a better house.. a better job... Not that one shouldn't be ambitious or not try to acheive more .But to what extent. Loosing touch with your family, friends. Loosing your own passion for doing things which one point of time was so natural to do even like taking time for yourself to relax.. to have that lazy day, just go for that long drive..Sounds like far away time

Today I would like to mention couple of things that I have noticed lately... which I think might help... don't know how much though...All of us have this up's and down's in life..
Just because we have the down's that doesn't mean our lives have become less perfect.. It just means that we are getting a second chance to mend ourselves.. be it in our work.. studies.. work...relationship anything.. If things are going fine.. we sometimes just end up taking things for granted and never actually realise how much those things / people mean to us.
And when things go wrong.. well all hell would break loose.. Just because we are not trying to understand whats wrong in what we did or if there was something that was lacking in it.. But we just go in search of someone/ something to whom you can put the blame on.

This never helps.. It actually might make matters worse.
I realised when you do something .. anything do it full heartedly. Just because someone you like or care for is doing it or asks you for it ... then just don't do it . Things most should be done with there own passion and concentration. Then you would be able to enjoy the fruit of your work.
So when you r really down then instead of cribbing and putting the blame on others. Just take time for yourself. Why exactly your feeling so low? Why do you think that things has not been working the way it its supposed to? You should realise one can never predict life. Always have to be prepared for the worst so that the best thing happens to you, and when they do happen ,you would realise the value of it.

And if you still don't get any answers after much thought then just go with the flow and let your instincts guide. Just don't forget to enjoy your passions and take time to unwind yourselves.

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

2007-12-24T15:05:00.001Z

I have been a die hard fan ( err not about the movie ) but about the F.R.I.E.N.D.S. the sitcom.. From the How u doing ? of Joey...Chandler's sarcastic comments.. Phoebe's ridiculous songs.. Rachel's Style.. ( especially her hair style.. ).. Ross's marriages .. and ofcourse.. Monica's authoratative control..

I still remember.. I just happened to click Star-World by mistake one evening..(well there was a commercial break during my fav cartoons..) And they were playing FRIENDS.. and I got hooked.. From then on I always used to wait for 5 0'clock evening to come and watch was happening next ..It had started to become a part of my life.. Thanks so much to the boom of the cable network during that time.. and thankfully my dad who did get it .. and I was hooked.. hehe I had gone to that extent that I had even made my mom get hooked as well.. even though she thought it was so outrageous with all the kissing and hooking up with guys..( but then she liked about how all of them where together .. sharing laughter.. your sorrows.. giving each other the helping hand.. especially when people were out of jobs..and giving the necessary push for them to go and prove them selves.. Isn't that we all ever want ourselves.. She even went to the extent that sometimes when I had some sports practice or some rehersal's she would tell me the story during dinner..

And then I moved to Chennai.. Hnmm and staying with my bro.. and then it was coming on Zee English.. and that too the perfect time.. 9:30 pm.. Perfecto.. Finish dinner.. and sit with a tub of ice cream.. obviously he would sit with a bigger spoon though.. Goshhh soo manny memoriess.. watching FRIENDS..

And that is what has inspired me to write about FRIENDS.. and trying to see what was protrayed in reel life to real life.. ( well not comparing the stars now .. which to consider is not a bad idea .. ) but comparing to all our lifes..

Its always said you can't choose one's family not that you have much choice.. considering the fact that we haven't been given much choice over there to begin with ;) .. well .. okk won't get there now.. thats entirely different conversational topic..

But then friends is whom we choose and in most of the cases the people who act as family when we are alone and away from our real family and in most cases ends up been more important than your family. You end up sharing your inner most secrets.. thoughts.. what scares.. ur sorrows.. and what not.. and they are always there to support you.. might also say the one that all of us dread the most

" I TOLD U SO ....... " routine .

How many times have you not heard that comment from your friends.. and still they will be around with u .. in ur times of need.. the support that you always wanted.. Is if it you cribbing for some idiotic notion .. so blabbering.. ( which I'm very famous for ).. but still they are there for you..

So here I'm taking time to thank for all the FRIENDS who have come into my life.. Who left their prints.. and made me the person who I'm now.. Thank you for being there when I needed you.. Sorry if i let you down and if I was ever not there for you the way you were for me....

Let it Go !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-05T09:33:00.001Z

Hi, I received this email the other day and thought that I should share it. I think whatever stage in the journey of life you are going through, you will somehow relate to this. Especially seeing that we at times tend to always agonize on the little simple obstacles in life. I think it is simply inspiring way to begin the New Year. *** > Let it go for 2008 ...by T. D. Jakes > > There are people who can walk away from you. > And hear me when I tell you this! > When people can walk away from you: let them walk. > > > I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, > loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying > attached to you. > I mean hang up the phone. > > > When people can walk away from you let them walk. > Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. > The bible said that, > They came out from us that it might be made manifest > > that they were not for us. > For had they been of us, > no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19] > > > People leave you because they are not joined to you. > > And if they are not joined to you, > you can't make them stay. > Let them go. > > > And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person, > it just means that their part in the story is over. > And you've got to know when people's > part in your story is over so that you > don't keep trying to raise the dead. > > > You've got to know when it's dead. > You've got to know when it's over. > Let me tell you something. > I've got the gift of good-bye. > It's the tenth spiritual gift, > I believe in good-bye. > > > It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, > and I know whatever God means for me to have > He'll give it to me. > And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. > Stop begging people to stay. > Let them go!! > > > If you are holding on to something > that doesn't belong to you and was never intended > for your life, > then you need to ..LET IT GO!!! > > If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ... > LET IT GO!!! > > If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and > see your worth... > LET IT GO!!! > > If someone has angered you ... > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and > revenge .. > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are involved in a wrong relationship or > addiction ... > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets > your needs or > talents .. > LET IT GO!!! > > If you have a bad attitude... > LET IT GO!!! > > If you keep judging others to make yourself feel > better... > LET IT GO!!! > > If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to > take you to a new > level in Him... > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are struggling with the healing of a broken > relationship.... > LET IT GO!!! > > If you keep trying to help someone who won't even > try to help > themselves.. > LET IT GO!!! > > If you're feeling depressed and stressed .... > LET IT GO!!! > > If there is a particular situation that you are so > used to handling > yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of > it," then you need to... > LET IT GO!!! > > Let the past be the past. > Forget the former things. > GOD is doing a new thing for 2008 !!! > LET IT GO!!! > > Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then > LET IT GO!!! > > > "The Battle is the Lord's!" > > During the next 60 seconds, Stop whatever you are > doing, and take this > opportunity. (Literally it is only One minute!) All > you have to do is the > following: You simply say "The Lords Prayer" for the > person that sent you this message: > The Lords Prayer > > Our Father, > who art in Heaven, > Hallowed be Thy Name, > Thy Kingdom Come, > Thy Will be done, > on Earth as it is in Heaven. > Give us this day, > our daily bread > and forgive us our trespasses > as we forgive those who trespass against us. > And lead us not into temptation > but deliver us from evil. > For Thine is the Kingdom, > and the Power, > and the Glory, > forever and ever. > > Amen. > > > God loves you and watches over you every day. >

READY TO FLY By Richard Marx

2007-11-30T23:53:00.000Z

I've been trying to open the door
To the secret of my destiny
And every new road I think is the one
Seems to lead right back to me

I've looked for a way to be wiser
A way to be strong
Now I see the answer was hiding
In me all along

And I'm ready to fly
Over the sun
Like a rocket to heaven
And I'm ready to soar
Right through the sky
Never dreamed I'd find something to lift me so high
I've always had wings
But I wasn't ready to fly

Restless, hopeless, and misunderstood
Like so many others I know
So busy tryin' to keep holdin' on
When I should've been letting go

I was given the gift to find it
The spirit inside me
But I never really imagined
All I could be

And I'm ready to fly
Over the sun
Like a rocket to heaven
And I'm ready to soar
Right through the sky
Never dreamed I'd find something to lift me so high
I've always had wings
But I wasn't ready to fly

The answer to all of my wonder
Was right in my hands
Now it's time for me to discover
All that I am

And I'm ready to fly
Over the sun
Like a rocket to heaven
And I'm ready to soar
Right through the sky
Never dreamed I'd find something to lift me so high
I've always had wings
But I wasn't ready to fly

I've always had wings
Now I'm finally ready to fly

My Friends ( college )!!!!!!!!!!

2007-11-21T18:45:00.000Z

Moving from Hyderabad and I came to Chennai..
N the JEPPIEAR Trust.. and Sathyabama Institute of Science and Technology.. Considering the fact that I first joined.. Panimalar and then got transfered to Sathyabama .. well feels weird.. but then I wouldn't have met couple of my friends that I do have now.. would I..

So starting from my Journey to college.. met this Girl in my locality.. which at that time was Royapettah.. Archana ( uff ARCH.. lost her single status.. ) Goshh the constant chatters we have.. and the rushing back to the bus to catch the seats.. considering the fact that we always used to get the same place.. still don't know why we used to run..

Then my close pal Kamakshi ( uff KAM's ) met her in one of the extra classes been conducted during the study hols as she was sick during the term time.. and me just transfered student.. and who was a big supporting factor later on..

Now comes my EIE class..
Who will I start with Preeti ( uff PRETHA ) I think Arch got us introduced considering we were going to be in the same dept.. and She got me introduced to the Rest of the class.. Starting from the movies.. eat outs at Hot pt at Thiruvanmyur with Jane and Arch.. or be it Gangotri..the nite out's... Man we did so much.. Am sure I could just go on and on.. but then u do know that you r special to me.. coz u r the only person who understands my blabbering.. and will blabber equally back to me.. then there is Jane.. Resmi ( Uff RESH ) and Sharmila (uff SHARMI ).. We used to call ourself JASPER by striking out the E.. hehe i know weird but that was the name of our gang.. miss that fun.... well that was us..
Special mention to my two bench mates for 2 yrs of my college life.. .. Aarya ( One of the first to loose her single status ).. with her constant updates about movie.. music.. and everything possible under this earth.. and Dhanya ( my temporary room mate as well.. ) she was also a good supplier of Breakfast for Aarya and Me.. will never forget that. . the food was yummyy !!!!!..
And now the boys.. who pretend that the are silent.. but anyways .. GT , Joji , Ajay, Aditya ( Uff ADI ) .. Rahul ..Subramanium ( uff SUBBU ) ... Balthazar ( uff BALTHA .. hehe we used to constantly talk more just before exam time as we would be sitting near each other.. ;) and that help is always required ).. Charles ( uff CHARLIE .. the silent dude.. who i got to know much better once we left college.. hehe and who is also a hopeless nut.. )

I still remember our Industrial Visit..The Road trip.. that to with the seniors.. when you are not supposed to go with guyss.. Goshh... Well we did visit the Mill.. well I think we did that by mistake in Coimbatore.. and the next thing you know we all had landed up for the Movie.. RUN.. weird.. as if there is no theatre's in Chennai we all watched it in Coimbatore.. then the trips to Ooty.. kodai.. the train journeys.. pondy.. It was so much fun.. Still remember we went to some theme park and trying to swim in the wave pool.. then the boat rides.. and cycling around the lake.. trekking.. the bon fire... It was really awesome...

N then when I moved to T Nagar .. Met Pretty.. and Shyla ( who's in my class )
We used to have this constant chatter on our fastest bus in college.. ( which is just the opposite.. as it used to give way to all the bus in the entire college and then go.. but our driver anna was really cool.. ) poor thing.. am sure he used to get irritated with the way pretty and me sit and sing.. or chatter so loudlyy.. goshh am suprised that he didn't actually throw us out of the bus.. ;)

Apart from ppl mentioned.... there are loads of people who r friends of mine.. but not from my dept..and some who are not from my college even.. Couple of seniors.. and few were just casual friends.. but later on became good friends..Especially when I was staying in Bessie.. Guess I'll write a blog about that later..

But then life moves on and so did we all.. couple of us.. away.. couple of us still remain the way we are.. But life just moves on.. I'm happy that I knew them all at some point of my life.. Because without them all I wouldn't have been the way I'm now.. Thank you all...

Outside Looking In..... !!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Paper houses and fallen angels
and times you can't see in front of you
wasted moments tried to be someone
I never wanted to be for you
but I feel my world coming back to life
my eyes are finally open again
now I see it all in a different light

I'm standing on the outside
finally on the outside looking in

reaching out into unknown spaces
with nothing left here to blur the view
now I know i've got to find this picture frozen in my mind
of a life I never knew
but I feel my world comming back to life
My eyes are finally open again
now I see it all in a different life

I'm standing on the outside
Finally on the outside looking in

I'm tearing out the page
breathing for a change
and it feels so good

to feel myself comming back to life
I'm finally on the outside
I'm finally on the outside
and I feel my world comming back to life
and my eyes are finally open again
and now I see it all in a different light
and I'm standing on the outside
finally on the outside
looking in

Ab Imo Pectore !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Being Happy !!!!!!!!

Life and memories.....

Technology in our lifes..

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Someone .. Somewhere... !!!!!

The Butterfly Effect..

The Butterfly Effect...How Your Life Matters, by Andy Andrews

Forgiveness and Trust !!!!!

New Beginning !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What I think ...... !!!!!!!

Think of ...........me !!!!!!!!!!!

“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant." Gotchaaaa !!!!!!!!!!

Culture.. Ha! Surely ,You Jest !

The A B C's of Feelings...

More Rain

He says ... She says...

End of Love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

New year.. New beginnings... !!!!!!

Bye Bye 2008...

Rain

Award Time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mumbai's 9/11

Going away !!!

True love !!!!!!!!!

Words Unspoken…

Take my hand !!!!!!!!!

Tagged..Twice..

Random Thoughtssss - Theories of Friendship !!!!!!

Factors that increase friendship

Other friendship factors

A Letter to Every Indian - APJ

A Letter to Every Indian - APJ

Life and its Moments !!!

And just when you think you've had enough,and your ready to get off the ride and take the calm, easy merry-go round...You change your mind, throw you hands in the airand ride the roller coaster all over again.That's exhilaration...that's living a bit on the edge...that's being ALIVE.

Marriage and Babies.. !!!!!

Men are from Mars N Women from Venus !!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Tagged Again !!!!!!!!

I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken, and the one that could always brighten up your day even if she couldn't brighten her own.

Friends & Trust !!!!!!!!!!

“Trust is like a vase.. once it's broken, though you can fix it the vase will never be same again."

It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it..

You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can't forget. Those are your 'friends.

Memories !!!!!!!

Freedom = Independence ???

The thing called LOVE !!!

6 Degree's of Separation

Forgiveness !!!!!!

I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.

The Palace of Illusions !!!!!!!

Standards or Double Standards ??????

Advice, Is it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Single So ..... ???

2 Tagss... Manyy questions

I wish ....

Hum-Tum.... N the war continues

I have been Taggedd !!!!

Devil Wears Prada !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How to Deal with life...? Well Just Listen ......

Sunshine...... !!!!!!!!!!!

Topics that I would like to write about !!!!!!!!!!!!!

What is....... ???

Aaja Nachle

D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R. was it ??? or wasn't it???

How Do You Cope With The Sorrow and Pain ??

Marriage's...

Time n Tide wait for none !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Let it Go !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

READY TO FLY By Richard Marx

My Friends ( college )!!!!!!!!!!

Outside Looking In..... !!!!!!!!!!!!!

The Butterfly Effect...How Your Life Matters,
by Andy Andrews

And just when you think you've had enough,
and your ready to get off the ride and take the calm, easy merry-go round...
You change your mind, throw you hands in the airand ride the roller coaster all over again.
That's exhilaration...that's living a bit on the edge...that's being ALIVE.