What I think ...... !!!!!!!

In the past few weeks all I have been hearing from my friends and close ones are statements like ..

"God , What's wrong ? Why doesn't he understand what I'm trying to say.. "

"I thought.. it was all going great.. and then this happened.. "

"It happened out of no where.. I didn't have a clue that this was about to happen ... To me "

"God.. I feel like such a fool..."

Am sure most of us have had these kind of thoughts and feelings when it comes to the special someone or a close friend.. and we end up going.. Why ???

What does the person really expect of us ???

And this is what most of my guy friends ask me.. Well I thought let me just write something about it.. Hopefully if possible give some insights ( If i can that is....and plus I don't wanna give away all our secrets now.. would I ;) ]

Other day i came across this Post from Still Thinking.. and her recent post titled We , the women . Its giving a small insight the way we women think.. And it is so true..

Sometimes we really don't know what we want.. or why exactly we want certain things .. but just that we want it. :)

I am confusing you already aren't I. Hehe sorry that's how we are :).. or in this case I'm. :P

Now what is it that keeps any relationship healthy..?? Well this is what I think are important for any kind of relationship.. for it to go on smoothly.

There is this Mutual respect : Respect in a relationship means that each person values what the other person is and understands it .. and would never challenge it.

Then comes Trust..Say you happen to talk to some other random guy and your BF passes by or vice versa.. Yes there might be some jealousy.. but then that's a natural emotion. How one deals with it, that's entirely a different ball game.

This is where Honesty plays a big role. This goes hand in hand with Trust because it is tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest about things.

Support.. Its not only in bad times that you need the support.. you still would like someone to be with you when you are at the top of the world and feeling good about what has happened . Some people don't know how to handle the good things.. they will be there for giving you the shoulder to cry on but not otherwise.. and vice versa.

Communication.. The most vital of the lot.. Yes men and women don't seem to speak the same language or think the same way.. but then that's why one has to talk in order to understand what the other person is trying to tell you. And in case if you need to think about it before you talk it out then the person will appreciate you letting them know about it. :)

Now coming back to the statements and this whole being in the relationship thing.. One would wonder why people understand what they really want.

Is it because one's wants ( or the priorities ) changes as time goes by ???

Because most of the time.. everyone is so easy to be around with.. Just our normal self's.. But then something happens.. and we go in to they Hyper mode.. Well for girls at least we always have the excuse of PMS ( plz guys don't ask me what that is.. can't explain :P ).

But what excuse do the guys have ? ( will love to hear about this one.. )

I have known instances when I have been introduced to people and to laugh at them. I know its rude. Its not that I'm perfect either I do have my flaws. But then I think I don't emphasis on my flaws as much as the other person had. It could just be the way they say certain words.. or their laugh.. And you just find it hilarious. ( I think I'm more like the Chandler from Friends who has to comment on things that he sees . )

A small tip for all my male friends out there. The best thing that you can do if you are in a relationship and would like to understand the woman is to Remember . Whether

remembering her birthday or something that you guys had spoken about a while back because when you remember it shows that you care enough to tell it back to her. And that means you were paying attention to her . I am sure if we ask our parents especially our dad's they will tell us the same thing. :)

Because any time a man forgets .. woman feels that he doesn't care enough about her.Even though the guy must have showed her how he cares for her in different other ways.

And most men ( after the long conversations that I have had been the agony aunt for few of my friends ) they love the straightforwardness when we talk.. and they like their women to be confident .. they like to take care of their women how much ever we say that we are independent this is one way of them showing their chivalry .. so we need to deal with it.. :)

Now I shall wait to see what you guys think.. :) chao

P:S I am also including a post that my friend Karthik had written couple of months back and I think thats another beautiful narration of what I was trying to tell here. Plz follow this link. Click here. I hope you will either leave comments over there or here about your views about the same. Thank you :)