In most cases we think:Yes , this is true love, when in fact it’s not. But then if this ain’t love than what is? There are plenty of things that we confuse with love.
It could be just the basic instinct. The feelings can be passionate and crazy, but in fact both people may want only sex. And after it all the misunderstanding starts, and once infatuated lovers will find out that they have nothing in common and sometimes they don’t even know what to talk with each other.
Another variant is when people lack support, care and attention to their person or they just scared to stay single. Being with someone can be a habit when one simply got used to the other. It can either be a sick addiction or some self-interest. People call all these types of relationship love just by mistake or trying to conceal the true nature of it.
But then what does real love look and feel like? Maybe it’s when two people seem to know each other for ages and even in their previous lives. They can go on talking and talking and conversation never lacks topics and never gets dull. Or people don’t have to say anything because they understand 
each other without words. And those moments, minutes and even hours of silence are never uncomfortable. True love is when partners complete one another, when they’re together it’s peaceful, the whole other world with it’s sufferings and problems doesn’t exist and nothing even matters.
It’s said that two persons truly in love aren’t looking at each other but in the one direction. And this is rather reasonable because they don’t say nothing “this is yours and this is mine” and share everything: friends, enemies, interests, problems and etc. One has his/her own identity but sees him/herself only as a part of the other.
Still real love is not a relationship of property.
If you really love someone you may say “I belong to you”but always be ready to let go if it makes the person you love happy.Jealousy stands out of the true love. How can one be jealous if there’s so much love and faithfulness? Real love doesn’t long for power, it doesn’t want to hurt, doesn’t want to punish for mistakes, it’s self-sacrificing and ready to forgive other and other again. But it’s wrong to think that true love is always a suffering, it only means that you take a person as he or she is and don’t expect the one you love to be perfect.
True love isn’t supposed to blow your mind, yet it doesn’t tend to get and to possess – it’s a and very special state of a soul.
But the question what true love is still has no definite answer. Do we truly love only once in our life? At what age are we supposed to meet our love? Does it last for a lifetime or just for a while? Probably everyone has his/her own answers to this questions. The truth is that no one should spend life chasing ideals or building relationships by some model of a true love. One will probably fail and miss the real thing beyond all this.
Finally I end by a quote from Eric Segal
True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights.If you hear bells, get your ears checked.
Also adding a poem called - Words Unspoken by Priyanka from Writer's Lounge.
Words Unspoken…
Words unspoken
Feelings unexpressed
A tornado of emotions
A life so messed
Do you know you are my soul mate?
A look from you sends my worries away
It’s all in your deep eyes my love
I just wish I could only say
Can’t you read my eyes?
You’ll see everything that’s unsaid
No matter how much I try to hide
It comes up…dying to be expressed
I’m a prisoner of your thoughts
You have encaged my life
Slit my heart and my soul
With a love coated knife
I dream, I hope
I cry, I can’t cope
Will this pain ever end??
I am too tired…can’t anymore pretend.
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38 comments:
Amazing. Actually very informative. The next time people say they've found true love, I would direct them to your blog
:)
hehe thanks shruti..
no have been having conservation lately with loads of ppl about true love.. so i thought of penning my thoughts down..
hehe glad u liked it. :)
Hmmm you're right Ani!
True love... the first true love starts with opening our eyes to our lovely mother! I haven't found a love so pure till now :)
So for me, true love lasts forever... a never ending fountain!
*Smile*
Mehreen.
Mehreen ,
thats true.. nothing can beat the love that a mother has got for her child/children.. its totally unconditional.. and its just amazing..
but the true love over here that am addressing to is the one that u get or experience or wanna experience from ur life partner.. or u think is going to be your life partner.. :)
wow ani...that was such a nice post....the thing i like about ur posts are that they are all so well researched and so informative...true love deciphered here....every time i feel she is the one, i know where to cross check now...cheers!
Sandeep..
thank you..
well you don't exactly have to cross check..hehe like i said in the end.. its different for everybody.. just something that you should have believe and faith in.. but you when both of you are starting to get hurt.. then it isnt true love.. but still could be something special :)
forgot hehe dont forget the bells.. or music being played.. remember mohabatein movie.. hehe wind blowing and violin music.. lol
Im an Eric Segal fan :)
Love..is such an overrated word. I dunno if anyone can ever define Love with just one definition. I believe it can hv many definitions cos its such a vast emotion...one that can hv, accommodate and appear in many forms.
**It’s said that two persons truly in love aren’t looking at each other but in the one direction
Its a lovely way of putting it. But I believe that 2 ppl dun always hv to be looking in one direction to hv true love between them. Sometimes the love is there but ppl go separate ways due to many other reasons...
**True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights.If you hear bells, get your ears checked.
haha cute one!
Keshi.
Keshi..
Even I love Eric Segal
it is an over rated word.. because each person feels differently .. there is no fixed guidelines which says yes this is how it is..
like u rightly said - "I believe that 2 ppl dun always hv to be looking in one direction to hv true love between them. Sometimes the love is there but ppl go separate ways due to many other reasons..."
end of the day its just the understanding between the individuals.. once u know that understanding isnt what it was..its better to part ways..
Hello All
Just added something on to the post.. hope u all like it :)
wow ani..dats really nice...
i wud say..its really difficult to decipher wht true love is...u realise n understand only ven u actually feel it...
really loved d way u defined it: "Maybe it’s when two people seem to know each other for ages and even in their previous lives."
how true!! really!! its as if u wrote my thoughts!!
n there is another way to know if u really love someone truly...atleast for me...just try to imagine ur future..ur life wid dat person...if u can imagine a beautiful life together...n if u feel its only n only he/she who can bring dat beauty n love in ur life...n if his/her happiness becomes evrything for u, even if it means suffering urself...n if u feel nobody else can take dat place in ur life...n if u feel dat its the only thing u want in life....then its true love for sure! (u see..i cn go on n on..hehe!)
cheers to ur lovely post!
n thanks for adding my poem! i m honoured! :)
nice post Ani, what about true love? did u find one? I did not , let s keep some hope ;)
C.
Priyanka..
well i am glad that u allowed me to put up ur work on my post..
i know what u mean.. it is something that one has to feel.. but then each person feels it differently..
and i rightly agree.. u know when u can think of that person in the lines for ever.. or spending the rest of your life with..and no one else can take that place.. that shows how much u really love and care for that person..
everyone is special.. and so are the feelings for them.. :)
Cess..
no.. still living in the hope of finding him..
am sure patience has its virtue :) hehe in this case for both of us :)
'True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights.If you hear bells, get your ears checked.' - Truly made me smile :)
And his book 'Love Story' equally made me cry :')
As you know very well I really don't u'stand what true love is, I wud truly find bliss if only 'Love' existed. Totally agree with Keshi, it is indeed over rated.
But I'm still optimistic Ani ;)
Still Thinking
aren't we all optimistic.. i know it is over rated.. but then we cant help it.. it is something which is part of our lives..
glad to bring a smile :)
and yup he's a great writer..
Hey Ani..
Lovely post there.. but rightly said..
love is different things to different people at different times..
but there is no such thing as 'true' love.. do we call anything as 'false' love.. that would be pretension.. so all love is true... you can talk about its purity... but it will almost always be true.. at least for the moment..!
And I just got my ears checked..! :)
Enjoy and take care..
Beautiful prose...
My take on love... Ummm... Tantalizing.
Hmm.
This blog I am reading after the day I saw Stardust and went to sleep. It has a good quote at the end about true love.
"I know that love is unconditional. But I also know that it can be unpredictable, unexpected, uncontrollable, unbearable and strangely easy to mistake for loathing, .... My heart... It feels like my chest can barely contain it. Like it's trying to escape because it doesn't belong to me anymore. It belongs to you. And if you wanted it, I'd wish for nothing in exchange - no gifts. No goods. No demonstrations of devotion. Nothing but knowing you loved me too. Just your heart, in exchange for mine."
yes ur right. :)
And hey Ani I'll be away for awhile...I put up a post in my blog for all to read. But I came here to tell ya incase u'd find me gone by the time u see it. dun be sad..I shall be bak soon. TC n HUGS!
See ya babez!
Keshi.
Just wow! Mindblowing, really, so touching and romantic and lovely and yet very real too. Loved each word of your post and just wishing for everyone to find their TRUE love and not any kind of substitute!
Really liked the poem, and your post was insightful. Its true, that love comes softly and knocks you over when you least expect it.It may not be what you dreamed of, but it is definitely what you need and look for :)!
Shantanu ,
Glad u liked it..
It is a different feeling for different ppl..
Hehe not bad you got your ears checked :)
Hope you are having a nice weekend.. take care
Karthik ,
Heh would really love to read your take on love..
Take care
Catch up with you soon.
Suresh ,
Thank you.. and welcome to my blog :)
Keshi
Hope you will be back soon..
Do take care.. muaaaahhh
will miss u sweets
Lena
Thank you dear.. and yes even i wish all of us do find our true love.. :)
Anu
That is so true..
It comes and knocks softly and one shouldn't be too busy to let it in..
Take care :)
I don't get the whole "True love" thing. If it's love, then it's true. If not true, then it isn't really love.
Hi Ani!
Yes i know the kind of love you're referring to here... but.. personally... i choose not to think about that side of it for obvious reasons you may know cz you've been reading my posts lately :)
Beautifully narrated, Girl!
*smile*
True love is the love that makes you silent and tie your hands when the girls a boy meets introduce their true love to him (her guy) or announce that she’s getting married or invite you for her wedding.... Yet the guy wish them good in his heart, no matter if these happen by the time the guy wants to talk about or just did it and talked all nonsense.
Hope I ain’t rude here!
Heh heh heh... okie. :) Some day, tht wish u just made ll be granted. ;)
And oh yeah... Following your blog! Boo! :P :)
As usual! Late here!! lovely poem! and I found u in orkut! sent a message! do check!!!!
That's an interesting post with nice way of ending it with a poem that suits well to the post content. I think, true love comes when different souls becomes one.
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thank u.. i think so too.. and poem is written by priyanka..
glad u liked it :)
came here through our common friend blog... it looks nice..
I dream, I hope
I cry, I can’t cope
Will this pain ever end??
I am too tired…can’t anymore pretend.
Your blog keeps getting better and better! Your older articles are not as good as newer ones you have a lot more creativity and originality now keep it up!
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