Random Thoughtssss - Theories of Friendship !!!!!!

Have you ever thought.. Why we are the way we are???

Confusing..???

I hope not..

Is it because of the situations that we come across/ or have come acrossed.... the family to which we were born in to.... the friends we choose....

And if so what was it that defined us to what we have become.. ?



I would say Friends....
They are the one.. well rather the most important catalyst that has shaped us to the way we are now.. It is true.. You choose your friends and not your relatives.. Thus they define us more than anybody else.. ( apart from parents or sibling..)


May be it sounds very repetitive.. But then we spends so much time with our friends than with anybody else.. Even your colleagues end up becoming your friend.. and hence becomes a part of your life.. Thus knowing more about you than your family..


True friendship is important to most people. I can count my genuine friends on one hand. For me, a real friend is somebody that remains loyal over the course of time though you may not see them very often. A true friend also tells you what you need to know as opposed to what you want to hear. They are there for you in good times and bad.



I was thinking about this.. and I thought of googling it up.. So I googled up "Theories for Friendship.."

And I was surprised with the interesting results that I got to read..
So here I am writing a blog on this random thought of mine..

Here is the most interesting one that I came across.. I 'm leaving the links on so that ppl can see what each theory means .. and thusI don't exactly have to explain it much.. ;) [ I am a bit lazy you see ]

Here are academic theories about how we resist attempts at persuasion. ( Really dont know what they were trying to say now. )

Factors that increase friendship

• Ben Franklin Effect: after helping another person we like them more.
• Contact Hypothesis: bringing enemies together leads towards friendship.
• Dilution Effect: information about others reduces stereotyping.
• Empathy-Altruism Hypothesis: if we feel empathy we are likely to help.
• Friendship: there are several factors that increase chances of friendship.
• Law of Attraction: similar attitudes leads to friendship.
• Matching Hypothesis: romantic partners tend to be similarly attractive.
• Mere Exposure Theory: exposure to people increases liking.
• Propinquity Effect: meeting and interacting increase chance of friendship.
• Reinforcement-Affect Theory: both forms of conditioning leads us to like others.
• Repulsion Hypothesis: we prefer those with similar attitudes (and vice versa).

Stages of friendship

• Social Penetration Theory: relationships go through stages of increasing familiarity.
• Stage Theory: relationships go through several stages.
• Stimulus-Value-Role Model: we select friends through a three stage model.
• Terminating relationships: relationships break down in stages.

Other friendship factors

• Attachment Style: we attach to others in secure or anxious ways.
• Attachment Theory: we attach to others in reciprocal and primitive ways.
• Buffer Effect of Social Support: supported people feel less stress.
• Communication Accommodation Theory: we talk/act like those we like.
• Love: there are several styles of love.

Well I hope that was a good read to all.. cant wait to see what everyone thinks about the theories.. If you agree or don't agree.. And if you do agree.. which is the theory that you agree about and whyy ???


And now how can I finish my blog with out giving couple of quotes for the posts..
I'm giving few meaningful.. and few funny one's ..



"Mother my friends are no longer my friends ,And the games we once played have no meaning ,I've gone serious and shy and they can't figure why ,So they've left me to my own daydreaming."
- Suzanne Vega


"Just to prove i was right that it's harder to be friends than lovers and you shouldn't try and mix the two, cause if you do and then you're still unhappy, then you know that the problem is you."
- Liz Phair


"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one." ~ C.S. Lewis


"I got a lotta best friends. Some o' them I don't even hardly know!" ~ Archie Bunker


"Marriage is a sort of friendship recognized by the police." ~ Anonymous


"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up." ~ Bible: Ecclesiastes


"To find a friend one must close one eye. To keep him - two."~ Norman Douglas


And Finallyyyy

"A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked." ~ Bernard Meltzer


Now I shall wait..