Standards or Double Standards ??????

All of us have standards.. and now am not talking about the standards that we have in the schoo (just in case ppl thought of that ;) )l.. this is like the personality.. education.. the class.. and all tht stuff and much more.. And using these we judge people and we then say.. Oh he/she doesn't have any standards at all.. ????


Question is What is this Standard?? And how does one define what is the right standard??Considering each person has different ways of judging a person and telling about standards.. So what is the common standard?


This actually came into my mind when I was talking to one of my friends.
Chris is actually happily married and we were discussing about how different the two cultures are but then somewhere down the line the whole thing went on to parents and the upbringing.. So in some way its a kind of a continuation of my previous blog.. but with a bit of insights and thoughts ( as always ) ..


Well Chris has got 2 kids a boy and a girl.
And he wanted to know if I had any siblings.. which I don't and he was soo surprised that my dad actually let me come to the UK when he's still in India.. And am here.. all the miles apart from each other thinggyy.

And thats when he was like " I have double standards when it concerns my children. My son I would probably expect him to be on his own when he is 18" ( considering he's just turned 6 ) . He continued saying " If he wants to be on his own before that its fine by me.. but may be after he is 15 that would be better .. where as when it comes to my daughter ( who is just 3 ) I wouldn't expect her to move out.. and when it comes to dating and guys.. Hnnmm well I don't know.. Her happiness matters the most.. but then I don't want her to just randomly be with some guy she meets up.."And the girl is just 3..

I was just laughing my head out.. and he was like "I know I probably might sound like ur dad.. But then thats how I feel when it comes to my daughter. But when it comes to my son. I wouldn't mind him moving away.."

This is when I felt sad for guys.. and got thinkingg..YES GUYS you sometimes end up getting a raw deal ..

Its not that they are not been protected or cared for.. But I think since you are a guy you are sure to take care of urself ( Or its assumed that you can and you will take care of yourself.. But DO YOU??? ). You are also not supposed to cry or show out any sign's that makes you look that you are weak person. ( I think thats a bit inhuman .. all of us have emotions and feelings.. and its not good to supress them.. It would then be like a volcano waiting to explode .) And thats bad.

This is were I think the standards and double standards come into play.
Girls are not weak. But yes we do have to be cautious about a lot of things and I wont say no to all that. But that doesnt mean Guys shouldn't be cautious and shouldn't be careful as well. Coming to think of it .. Who actually thought of these thinks in the first place. That this is how it should be ? This is how girls will be and treated like and this is how guys should be and treated like??

I remember when I was in my native place.. and this was probably when I was 9-10 yr old and most of my cousins are guys and older than me and we were playin cricket or running around the house. Some Aunty came to visit us and saw me running about with the guys ( who are my cousins by the way ) and gave my mom a lecture about how to raise a girl child and how I shouldn't be running around and playing with them. Because am a girl and they are guys !!!!


This discrimination is what leads to people saying all sorts of things..
From being toooo cautious and tooo over protective about their kids. And they in turn asking for the so called freedom which they want.. Just trying to be a rebel for what their parents are saying... Making everyone miserable in the process..


Now coming back to my main topic.. Where is this standards?
Who sets them ??
And what are these standards??
Why is it so different for a guy and a girl ???
Aren't we all supposed to be equal????