Single So ..... ???

Ok the title of my blog itself is a give away to what the topic is all about. Am sure all the singles out there must have faced this problem.. and finally end up thinking.. Yes am Single .. So???


Sooner or later, it happens to all of us who are free agents. You're hanging out with members of the paired-up set, and you wind up on the receiving end of a possibly well-intentioned but most definitely annoying comment about your single status. Sure, you can just take it all in silence or end up giving snappy comments.. Well these comments could be snappy or rude or flattery depends on the person and how they wanna react though. Personally I would take it in silence.. If not I would end up being a bit sarcastic. Am writing about a particular instance that happened yesterday evening. My friends and I were invited for dinner yesterday. So we were a group of 8 out of which there were two couples and the rest were all us ladies. Of which two of us were the only singles ; One of them being me .

Well these couples who eventually ended up disussing ( or questioning would be the apt word ) about our single status and about marriage.. well lets name them Mr and Mrs M and Mr and Mrs N , its easier for reference. Now Mr and Mrs M got married 6 months back.. so basically they are newly weds ( Duhh! ) and very much on the honeymooning period.. they even went on to feed each other which I really found it cute and would like to know if they would continue doing that even after been married for 5-6 years.. where as Mr and Mrs N were happily married for more than 4 years and no kids yet.. They didn't feed each other but then Mrs N did keep a track of what Mr N ate and made sure he did eat healthy as Mr N was sick sometime back and they are due to travel soon , so she's being cautious about it. And plus this was also the first time that we all had met Mr M just because Mr M doesnt reside here.. or rather in the same continent.

Anyways.. the conversation finally lead to each couple telling how it was when they got married..and how the marriage was held and all the customs and rituals.. the honeymoon and blah blah blah.. Ok no offense.. But then its really not that I wouldn't mind listening to it.. Its just that finally it became to such an extent that I really had to sit and wonder was it another marriage prep talk [ which it was ] .... which I have been made to listen off late.And if so whyy???

Just because they think we are not married or dont have a bf right now.. that doesnt mean that our lives are boring ?? Each person has his/her own ideas when to settle down , how to and what they would think in their better halves. And they do it when they are ready which mostly coincides with meeting the right person . :) I would like to say some are lucky they do find that person sooner enough.. But some of us have to wait for a while.

Now these are some of the comments that I have received well not exactly yesterday some of them were given in the past.... and I have also mentioned how I thought about it at that time. Even though I just smiled at them politely without saying anything back. So that I didnt trigger out someother comment.

The First one wasn't too bad
"You're so lucky you're single—so much freedom, independence, etc..."
Am I ?? N does marriage mean's loosing your freedom ... hnnm well I didnt think so..


"There are so many great single people out there—maybe you're being too picky."
Oh yeah !! well I didn't think you were looking out for me.. N well thanks for letting me know that I'm picky . Especially when I hadn't thought about marriage and getting hitched up yet. But that doesnt mean you are allowed to match making. I don't get it why do married couples have to make sure all there single friends are also hooked up.. Does anybody know the logic behind that??


"It's hard being alone during the holidays/weekends, isn't it?" or "Ever get lonely ??"
Not exactly?? What is so hard of spending the time ?


" So how long is your studies..? That long.. Common get a life and get married ??" I have a life.. I mean.. because I'm not married that doesnt mean I dont have a life..
The shortened version of the above question would be " Still single , huh ?"


"Aww you are still single , Don't worry am sure you will find some one soon !" Yup some time or the other all of us do find ourselves a partner.. which are meant to be.. or not.. depends on time.


"You know, you should've stuck with ___ ( ur ex / or a close guy/ girl friend with whom you hang around), You guys were/are great together ."
Well you cant make them understand that you are over your ex..and the person in question is just a good friend of yours nor can you mention that you actually are planning the agony aunt for him in his love problems..


Well am sure all single people must have gone through these comments and then the prep talk. But the thing being. Single people are happy in their own world. We have our own commitments.. Be it work , to our families.. our siblings, cousins , friends , collegues. And this does take up our time . Yes sometimes we might miss out on the single companionship but that would be rare. I could vouch that 9/10 single people don't think much of marriage unless someone actually mentions that in a conversation.

This is to all the singles out there. You will have friends who would actually mention about marriage and relationships , babies, commitments all the time . But that doesn't mean you end up hooking up with the next person who comes along in your life. Should realise that we don't have to settle for something when you are not sure. Its not justifiable to that person and to you as well.

Till then lets enjoy the Independence of being single as our married couple friends would put it :)