Why this sudden talk about forgiveness..
Don't know may be because am slowly letting my past fade away.. and forgiven certain instances or circumstances that has occurred in my life.. which i was prodding on for a long time. I thought it was about time that I let go off this excess baggage.. Well baggage.. it needn't be just our usual stuff that we carry.. but all those emotions .. that sometimes goes unexpressed.. and attended .. which we think that we shouldn't show it out .. as it might show how vulnerable we are and common who wants to look vulnerable.. ( I know its not a bad thing.. but well thats we all are )
Ok lets take an example..
I read this somewhere the other day....
How heavy is a glass of water?
Well that depends on how long you have to carry it . A minute is no problem and after an hour your arm might ache. But after 24 hours you'll probably be in bad shape!
In each instance the glass weighs exactly the same, but the longer you carry it the heavier it feels. It is the same with a grudge; it can get so heavy it stops you from living.
The same way , People will hurt you; that's the reality of sharing this planet with others. Sometimes it's intentional, other times they've no idea they upset you, far less broken your heart. Does that mean you should go around pretending nothings wrong? No, the first step is to confront your feelings and when the hurt is deep, it's even harder to forgive.When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.
But then over time you end up forgetting about it.. Sometimes out of sight is out of mind.
What had mattered so much and had caused so much hurt and pain is long forgotten.. Thats different that the hurt might have replaced by some new worries and hurt.. but that again that would also pass off in time..
It is said that Time is a great healer .. But the problem is no one knows how much time one takes to heal..
I am going to sign off this blog by this quote that I read
I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.
Interesting.. Isn't it .. :)
Can't wait for the comments now..
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OMG Ani I wrote along the same lines today! FORGIVENESS. HUGS!
**Well that depends on how long you have to carry it .
so so true!
Im human, I make mistakes, I can hurt others, I say harsh words...but I dun CARRY anything for too long. I quickly calm down and wanna forgive and forget.
Wut a wonderful post here Ani! I felt u wrote it for me...for how Im feeling today. Cos Im asking for forgiveness from a friend who thinks I hurt her and dun wanna know me anymore...:*(
*HUGZ*
Keshi.
Superb...really good...the example of carrying the glass was just perfect. Just a few lines from Heal the world
TIME IS THE HEALER....TIME MOVES ON....I'M WAITING....
Overall really loved reading...let me forgive ppl soon n not put up a straight face...This write-up of ani is enuf to inspire me :)
Good!
Anything else came out of your research?
Ani..
i could see somebody growing each moment..after every word.
some posts are like that.
after reading it you see the same person with fresh eyes...
what a great post!
me have two posts..
it is interesting how you read the first one..
waiting...
MIP
a very insightful post!!! I remember reading forgiveness on Keshi's blog, Prachi's blog (A Little Something). I suppose its the need of the hour, made a more contemplative.
well Sometimes the best way to forgive is to forgive the self, at times we live with the grudge and making it heavier and difficult for people around us, rather than letting it go.. It's better to save that moment and be sorry rather than clutching to it and making lives miserable.
At times a timely sorry saves a relationship...
Keshi..
Don't know we are some way telepathicaly connected ( if this word does exist.. my spelling is going to the drains now a days )
hehe i just spoke to someone and i realised that it doesnt hurt me at all.. and that i had moved on..
we human make mistakes.. hurt others .. but sometimes things come out in anger and we do repent and apologise enough for it..
but then again even if you forgive others for hurting you.. they might not forgive you for hurting them..
am sure babez.. it will be fine.. once u explain things out to her.. ppl have to let go of their anger at some point of time.
Rajesh :
hehe i heard that example from one of my friends who is doing her research in pyschology.. hehe so got a bit of info from her.. :)
and i think one should always learn to forgive and move on.. there is so mch other things to do than carryin on a grudge..
shaji
yaaaayyy u are back..
but i expected more comments from you.. ( not a one liner.. thats so unlike you.. ) so hows u.. how did your exams go.. hope all's done.
hehe welcome back.. :)
MIP
thank u for the encouragement.. well thats what one needs to improve.. someone has to believe in the person's ability to give the person the necessary boost to perform better.. :)
will get to ur post after replying to my comments for the post..
chao
Barath
hehe yeah keshi and me.. ( don't know how.. )
hehe end up choosing the same topics..
well the circumstances are entirely different.. but oh well.. you are getting to read about the same topic from different point of views..
so thats nice right..
and so agree with you..
a timely sorry does save the relationship... provided both sides actually wanna save the relationship..and not makin one miserable.. thinking over it which is the most important part to it.
Cos I already wrote a lot to rescue Rajesh.
Exam went ok although as not as how I would have expected. But I am progressing on it.
Forgiveness is a wonderful gift anyone can give to another person or something we receive from God. I forgive everyone for anything, if I say about me because God forgives everyone who repents.
Ahem...just whom r u tryin to forgive gurl? we need to talk...NOW! ;)
Shaji
well thats not an excuse for you not to write.. hehe
preeti..
nothing di.. just felt like writing so wrote. lol.. and sure we'll talk :) tell me when you have time out from ur busy schedule..
P:S Everybody.. Happy Friendship Day.. :)
Preeti isn't busy; she's finding who got pray rise in the IT networks security team. lol.
'I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.' - Beautiful. I just can't tell you how much I agree with this line and how often I say it in my mind but can't seem to tell it right on their face :)
This feels like a deja vu.
Nice blog babes.
hehehe ty so much Ani HUGZ!
**but then again even if you forgive others for hurting you.. they might not forgive you for hurting them
I know, that can happen too :(
But I know, that I cant sleep w.o. asking for forgiveness (if I was wrong)...so I do apologies...and it is upto the other person to forgive me or not...and its not within my control.
Keshi.
Shaji
I doubt if preeti liked tht ;)
Still thinking
welcome to my blog.. hope u do keep coming back for more..
yup i love that statement.. and yes even i cant keep saying that often as i want to.. jus that i know ppl would again not understand what i'm trying to say.. oh well thats life.. few ppl end up knowing us too well.. and few ppl just dont get it..
take care.. keep dropping by as often as u can.. :)
keshi ..
i know babez what u mean..
admitting one's mistake is the most hardest thing.. but harder than that is to forgive and then move on.. and not affect u r relationship..
sometimes ppl end up having big heart..sometimes.. thats all there is to it.. and one has to move on..
Temme abt it! Shaji is rite!!! I'm cursing that guy is more like ittttttttttttttttttt!!!!!!!!
Pretha..
why babez.. what happened?
Good post, Ani! I've learned that forgiveness is necessary more for yourself than the other person....
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