Ok this blog is inspired by the Movie Hum Tum .. which is so very obvious considering the title is that.. and also from blogs from my close friends.. Pretha's No peanuts for me please.. and Anish's Men and Women 1 and 2.
Now this has always been a debate topic.. and such a lovely topic to write about. One can always go on and on.. and interpret in so many different ways. But then one thing is for sure... That is with out Hum aur Tum.. there wouldn't be any relationships.. Be it friendship.. family.. anything..
Basically its how we define things.. And that's where the problem arises. Each of us have different point of view. And that again differs if you are guy or a girl.
Now if you read both their blogs.. You actually get to see two sides of the coin...
And that is what am trying to achieve by my blog.
Why do guys flirt.. OK am not pin pointing the guys now saying that they flirt more.. Its more like they flirt even if the girl tells nope nothing is going to happen.. and we are just friends.. And guys sometimes we don't give this excuse as an excuse.. we really would like to be friends..
Yes you can say.. that it is a good ice breaker to get to know the person.. But then there are few girls.. who might not be inclined towards that.. So the approach should be different and that's what goes wrong with the guys.. The approach most of the time is same..
And that might not be appreciated.... Well not alwayss..
Now girls.. we have this problem .. Thinking guys are not emotional.. Sometimes you end up getting a partner who doesn't know how to express his feelings.. [ Guy's that's such a bad thing to do because we girls do need that telling or reassurance ].. Need to get around that and make them comfortable to opening up and talk things out..
End of the day it is not that you flirted too much.. you looked at another girl/guy when you are in a relationship... Looking has never caused problems.. Its when you step out from your boundaries of that relationship.. That's when problem arises.. When you don't spend much time and don't understand what the other person wants and you are so buried in your work .. That you don't realise that you are moving away from the person .. the very person for whom you are trying to make things better..
And after all this.. there is no turning back..
Each boundaries defines each relationships.. And each relationships are special.. Some carry on for ever and stand the test of time.. till death does than apart..
Others breaks away over time... Trust and Faith is most important..
End of the day.. Guys will continue to flirt around.. well more than girls.. [ yup am being biased ;) ].. And guys will blame girls for breaking their hearts and vice versa..
But the truth of the fact remains that..
They can't exist without each other... They need the other person.. to make them complete..
And thus the war will continue
P:S : Do watch the movie its awesome.. even though I have watched it n times.. can't get enough of it.. or even Harry met Sally.. that would also serve the purpose :)
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yaay! first to comment. may i say...this post is very well written. yes, ur absolutely right. we have no probs in guys looking at girls. duhh...cos we look at guys too! but...its the boundaries. hum tum is an awesome movie.
i dont know why guys flirt. can any guy pls shed some light on the issue? its a mystery. i dont even think they know why they do it. and yes, guys are emotional. wont name names...but i think we both know who i'm talking about.
but i'll say one thing...when trust is gone...its all gone. it can never be gained back....
I think both girls and boys have their unique characteristics, and things operate accordingly; chemistry + psychology. And then the brought up, family, friend circle, community etc add to everyone’s behaviour. Some people who doesn’t get chance to flirt, but still wanting to flirt may be nice to the society but not within his / her heart. Some get chances to understand what the other person would expect out of him/her and some not. I think they flirt because they are not prepared for a good relationship.
It’s true, trust and honesty are valuable characteristics of human beings.
I'm ok with casual flirting...cuz most often than not, just talkin is considered flirting...if added with that, a little laughter and small touchy gestures is considered total flirting...i just hate the kinds who flirt to flirt..who think in their minds, yeh ladki jaldi pat jaayegi, so let's just bring it on...and they say such fuck all crap! ok,ok i know im gettin all worked up...but i cant help it! :D
very well written ani...casual flirting is fine...i mean...after all, we are all humans and getting attracted to the opposite sex is quite natural..its important that people or frenz around dont make a fuss of it...as preeti rightly said, somertimes even casual talking becomes flirting..looking fwd to more beautiful articles...and ani...since u have taged me, my next blog ll b posted in another 4-5 hrs.. :) ..
Soh : yup ur the first yaaayy :) hehe and thank u for the compliment sweets.. considering this my favourite topic hehe ... and i do need to reatirate that trust is very important..
Shaji : yes gurls and guys have unique characteristics.. that is what makes us different.. and that is why sometimes we end up like.. why is he/she talking like that.. am not able to understand them..
Pretha : I know babez.. its cool don't get soo worked up.. sometimes we are bound to meet people who just annoy us and dont understand us at all.. or try not to understand or ignore what we say..
Rajesh : thank you for the compliment.. so cant wait for your next blog.. and rightly said.. point is not to make a fuss.. but then again.. some people don't understand it without making it a fuss.. oh well.. thats how somethings are meant to be i guess..
Is this your fav topic ?
Starting writing a comment, ended up writing a blog... LOL...
Check out my latest post. Very happy to have comments.
Jac : thank you so much for coming back.. yes.. human relationships are soo varient if i may use that word.. we approach each relationship in so different ways.. that you always tend to wonder.. and hence you have different point of views.. and thus so much to write about.. so yes.. it is :)
Anish : yup read the blog and commented.. hehe so am waiting for you to approve it.. which i think you change that setting .. to have more comments on hands...
And i would suggest other's to read his blog so that we can have a proper debate over there..
and someone could then lead it on as a blog later on..
Nice analysis. But I have to say this , if looking at another girl or guy has your partner all bothered, its definately a deeper issue.If the couple is secure enough in the relationship, Halle berry can come out of the sea, and your better half's eyes may pop out, but you know hes not going to be going anywhere near that sea :)! btw I love when harry met sally too!
Hey guys, you all alright? Put off your very impressive experiences for a while. Have a break.
Pahela nasha - Tell me anyone who doesn’t die for this song! Hear it and then tell me.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=Kript89cSsA
Sincerely Anonymous,
Who am I?
am not sure if we need something outside of ourselves to 'make us complete'...i believe not.
Anu : I agree with that.. thats why i didnt touch much on that part..Some would say oh they are just trying to do that to make me jealous.. but my whole question why the need to make the person feel jealous and all that insecurity..
Yup Harry met Sallyyy iss toooo gooodd :)
Anonymous : hnnm you remind me of shaji hehe dont hehe may be is it the only blog [ from the time i have known you ] that you haven't commented much.. and its very typical of you to give a song with relation to the topic..
if i got it wrong.. then am sorryy.. but the song is awesommee
dharmabum : thank you for dropping by.. and kind of beg to disagree.. because all of us are not perfect.. and we try to look those qualities in someone else so that we can be complete..
I don't know how many ppl actually agree with that logic..
Ahhh.. the flirting game.. I have been married for so long that I have almost.. almost... forgotten the llirting game..
Enjoy it while you can.. Kayce
Anu / Ani:
What's that all about Harry and Sally? "She's a brand new girl I don't even know her" lol. Did she dump another one?
Ani / dharmabum:
After we realise somethin's not good, we should get out of it. No one's perfect I guess.
You got it right White Flag, about anonymous!
sounds great n funny :)
Keshi.
I should see the movie! :)
K.C : Oh thats lovely.. touch wood.. hope u have loads of blissful married life ahead ..
Shaji : Oh my godd.. you haven't seen harry met sallyy.. hehe well i would suggest you to watch it this weekend if you can.. its such an awesomee movie..
hehe and i knew it was you.. and u r comment on the other blog was also a give away.. which i realised later on.. lol
Keshi : thank you.. relationship's sometimes seem funnyy ..not at that point but later on when u sit and think about it.. you will find couple of things amusing in them..
Andrew : welcome.. and yes the movie is amazingg.. you should watch it :)
That was a great movie..i liked your post.It is always becoming natural too.Only thing is that we always have to keep ourselves aware of everything happening 'between' and 'inside'..most of the time thinking has nothing to do with it..
Sense of humour is the lifeline of any strong relation..As somebody said "seriousness is a mental disease..
Very good post ani..
me too have updated..and i have added you..
Man in the painting : thank you for blog rolling me.. and thank u for the compliment as well.. just read your blog.. nice comparison must say :)
and yes I agree.. sense of humour should be there in every relationship.. and thinking wouldn't help it much..
Which movie did you see.. Hum-Tum or Harry met Sally??
hi ani ....updated my blog :)
Boys Girls,Tom Jerry etc etc.
Nice read.
Scribblers Inc.
Rajesh : Checked and commented as well :)
Scribblers Inc : thank you for visiting.. and yes it is pretty much tom and jerry.. but then they are always together.. :)
that indeed is a cute movie
and i think its totally fair to be biased because its true :)
I tried to book a ticket online through ODEON Cinema in Preston but the movie 'Harry met Sally' isn't shown this week. Well, if the movie is about relationships and crap, I better don't see it. I already decided not to watch movies like Titanic or Perl Harbour anymore, lol.
Mansi : welcome to my blog.. and yup i agree.. movie is really good.. so one can be biased.. :) do keep visiting my blog.
Shaji : Its an old movie.. so you would have to rent it out on a dvd hehe.. and common be a sport.. and this got nothing to do with Titanic or Pearl Harbour. ;)
"Hum Tum". Its a good movie and saw it half a dozen times.
But I think Harry met Sally is a better movie to watch.
I too am school of thought that guy and a gal cannot be just friends and have no attraction for each other.
The reason could be anything under the sun.
Old school of though perhaps.
White Flag by Dido is an amazing song
No updates ?
Tarun : I agree that Harry met Sally is a good movie..better than Hum Tum.. well Hum Tum is more Indianised version of it.. so its easier to relate to that as well.. apart from the song and dance routine though..
About the Girl and Guy cant be friends.. well it actually depends on them.. End of they day its they who decide.. how they want to define the relationship..
Jac : updates.. as in updates in writing a new blog? well thinking of few.. still in the draft stage though.. :)
nice movie that one. nice write up on relatioships.I would love to take a leaf out of this blog. Will let you know before I do. "So, How you doing???"
the pseudonym: thanks for the encouragement.. and sure do let me know when u do so.. would love to see a different interpretation :)
Oh btw "Am doing good , Joey " lol
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