Change...

Just as she entered the house..There was a quick flash of light and then she heard the almighty thunder..

As she opened the door to her porch.. She could see that it was raining heavily.. It felt as if they were welcoming her back home.. With the lighting as a drum roll.. She couldn't help but smile.

Yes the change had begun..

Black saturday in India !!!

As i keep flicking through my televison.. Or be it online.. The only news that i have been reading, hearing n seeing is about the brave daughter of India who lost her life.

As we are seeing candle light vigils everywhere and as more people are joining these protests.. It makes me wonder if this will help us make a change.

A change for us Indians should come in how our society views WOMEN in general. Just because we are travelling in buses.. Trams.. Trains.. Why even ordinary streets or shopping malls.. Be it in anywhere.. That doesnt give them a right to look at us women in such a way that should make us feel uncomfortable about ourselves..

I have heard some people saying .. Oh may be that woman would have dressed provcatively.. So does that mean she deserved that kind of treatment.. But arent most of Indian women wearing saree n salwars and still getting teased.. Raped even.

Having said that.. What about the rape victim who was just 3 yrs old. What provocation would have that child done at her age.

So its more the mentality that needs changing... Till then how many ever vigils happen.. Things might still look grim when it comes to total freedom for the women.

May Nirbhaya's soul rest in peace as she was the only motivation which awakened this sleeping society.

P:S - There is a malayalam movie 22 female kottayam.. I wish that would be an apt ending for this cause.. But not sure if thats a permanent solution.

Being Happy !!!!!!!!

"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections."

I know lots of people including me who when asked if they think that they are happy with the things happening in their life.. be it with career wise or in their relationships.. the standard response will be not exactly but i wish or think it will be better..

All of us are trying to chase behind the dream where all our lifes are perfect.. where we don't seem to have any problems in our life.

 Just wishing that getting a promotion at work or getting the latest model car or getting a bigger house will automatically make us happy. We just don't realise that once that dream or ambition is fulfilled we automatically replace it with something else. Something much more bigger and much more important or atleast we feel is important to us at that particular point in our lives.

Which thus makes us forget what are the things that genuinely makes us feel happy.. really happy about one self.

May be it could be as simple as having a very lazy day.. starting from a lie in on the bed... or to just playing on your X-box. It could be catching up with your spouse and doing things together or meeting up with friends and trying to catch up with them and having a good time.

Now when we have finished up with all the mad rush of the new years and where the resolutions are pretty much gone with the wind ( i apologise  to those who are still able to keep up with their resolutions ) more less because we couldn't find the time to do things for ourselves in our busy lives.

I have made a small compilations of quotes that i found on the web.. and thought will share them here..

"Happiness is not having what you want. It is wanting what you have."

"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful."

"There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will."

"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it."

Now what ever said and done.. reading this post and going through the quotes.. end of it all.. its all down to our mind state.. and that's something that we choose to do.. i am choosing to be happy let what ever it may be.. what about??? 

Life and memories.....

The other day i got a quote as a forward text from one of my friends.. It read as

People meet by coincidence.. They spend sweet time together, then God separates them, not to end the story..  But to see how much they remember each other.. !

I realised its so true.. All the things that you do together.. be it in friendship..  in love.. or committed relationship.. suddenly starts to fade away.. and before you know it.. you think that you have gone away from that person.. just that we never realise that we didnt make the effort to keep things going.. never took the time to remember how things were..

Starting from the most simplest things like one's fav drink.. is it tea or coffee.. to anyother preferneces.. its just all taken granted for.. and never remembered.. remembering to wish someone on their birthday.. anniversary.. its all part of the relationship..

To all my friends out there.. this is my way of saying sorry incase i forgot to be there for you.. and over the years if we havent kept in touch.. Hope all's well..Happy reading

Technology in our lifes..

Off late i have been travelling quite a bit.. be it for my family or because i wanted to move from one city to another.. but anyways.. whats keeping me in touch with my family and friends while travelling is my mob.. i.e technology..

Long gone are the days were i would tell ppl that i am about to board the train and that i leaving for the station and hence will call once i reach the destination. but now days we can be in touch constantly.. we can call each other up... get all the glory details off one's travel then and there starting from if you are having an annoying co-passenger.. to which station you have reached at that particular time of the day.. to what you might eat later on..

But I have this very love -hate relationship with this technology.. i love the fact that i can reheat my food in few mins.. i get to record my fav tele soaps in case i miss them or wanna watch them a million times.. i love the fact that i am in touch with my loved ones all the time.. but it also gets me distracted very easily.. especially when i don't want to be distracted..say like now.. i started to write this blog.. and got carried away googling things up on technology and relationships.. hehe funny stuff.. i am pretty sure it has happened to lots of us.. we decided that yes this is what i am going to do .. this is my plan for the day.. but once we log on to the virtual world then all hell break loose.. have to check emails.. reply back to the emails .. off lines.. check on your friends status.. poke each other on face book.. and what not.. and if there's some gossip out.. oh boy we do have to catch up on that.. and yes.. how can i forget.. tweet about them as well..

But what this technology has done is its has taken out the charm one could have a conversation for hours together face to face.. because now we somehow manage to stay in touch all the time.. thus making us feel connected with the other person all the time.. be it how far they are.. everyone is connected to the other..Also now if u want to avoid some one then u don't exactly have to pick up calls or reply back to the texts and you can always blame this back on to the technology. There are one of genuine cases were technology is to be blamed for this...

But I would still prefer the old fashioned way of keeping in touch.. meeting up for coffee...having long conversations about anything under the sun.. just having able to put a face to the voice or to your chats helps to such an extent that's nothing.. able to see the facial expressions helps more in having the conversation.. because you know for sure if the person is genuinely interested or just pretending to be listening.. because that's what happens sometimes.. we are on the chat or on a call.. and might simultaneously be multi tasking.. and thus we don't even realise if the topic of discussion or conversation was of importance or not.... i know some of u would suggest the video chat but common how many times have u thought i wish the we could just sit and talk instead of having to stare at the computer monitor..

Well anyways.. i just got distracted for the n'th time while writing this blog... So i think i will just wrap it up.. Hope you guys will let me know what u think.. and mean time.. i have given the link to one of my distractions that i had while googling things up...
Enjoyyyy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.vinniev.com/8-comical-ways-how-technology-changed-our-relationships